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writes:please help me. i just found out my girlfriend with whom i have recently taken very seriously had an affair with my boss (while he was married. he is still married). she once told me the story of how they met and things that went on. To spare you the long story, the bottom line was that she and my boss had misunderstandings because he wanted to divorce his wife and marry her and she never agreed. The impression created was that they were good friends and she was helping him pray over his marital problem.Recently, my boss had been calling her to report me and things i do with her pictures on facebook. and she always called to tell me. I got the impression that my boss was trying to paint me in bad light in order to win her.Today i posted a comment that my boss thought was directed to him so he called me and confronted me. he then told me all that went on between them. (she had done attachment with us and that is how we met). my boss says she did not admit completely that she is going out me, prompting me to tell him too that she had told me also that nothing went on between them.my boss was somehow offended that she had told me that and pointed out how he had slept with her severally and says he even has naked pictures of her to prove it.in the end he said he has nothing against my relationship with her and that she is a good girl and if i can i should even marry and that he will never even mention this to anyone.i found a way to ask her questions without telling her my boss told me anything and she eventually admitted having slept with him once. she says she was afraid and did not know how to tell me about it.am sure being a counselor, you can tell the kind of questions i am asking myself now. until now, she has been good to me and i had no reasons to doubt her commitment but i dnt know how to handle this.please help me.
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reader, Dear Mandy  +, writes (13 April 2013):
 HI
What a nasty peice of work your boss is. Don't let him ruin your relationship to spare his ago. Sounds like he lured her into bed anyway, his a married man, If he wants to now start telling you all the nitty gritty details of what happened in hoping to split you both up, remind him his still married and your sure his wife would think differently if she were to find out, that will stop him in his tracks. As for your girlfriend she knows what she did was wrong, which is why she spared you the full details, and out of embarrasment no doubt. She wont be that silly again, Im sure she knows what a mess she got herself into, sit down with her again and let her know that you love her dearly and trust is a big part of a relationship, so any future advances her bos trys to make no matter how small she should consulte you with it. This way she will have you to be at her side and it will build the trust back between you.
Mandy x
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