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writes: My boyfriend of two years and i have just become a long distance relationship due to college. We live 4 hours apart and the new surroundings and stress-ors have taken a tole on us. Neither of us are losing love for each other but because of the stress have begun to fight over the littlest things. How can we keep this from happening?
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reader, anonymous, writes (29 October 2010): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionThank you both so much!! You gave me some great ideas! He is definitely worth fighting for. :)
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reader, dirtball  +, writes (28 October 2010):
 Can we get an example?
LDR's are really tough, and rarely work out. You can see why first hand. You both need to decide that if this is something you really want to continue, then you can't get upset about the small stuff. Communication will be much less frequent. You can't get jealous over eachother's friends. You may grow apart.
Is it possible for either of you to arrange a visit? Maybe with more regular visits you can keep the love alive. I'd say you should walk away now, but I doubt that's the advice you want to hear. This problem will only get worse.
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reader, Johnny2301 +, writes (28 October 2010):
 I have been in a long distance relationship for approximately six years, or the majority of the relationship. We started dating in high school and we continued throughout college. I am now pursuing a graduate degree and the relationship continues. Like you, we were separated by about four hours (which is not far compared to some). Anyways, the key is to find a way for the two of you to stay connected during this time. You should designate a time that the two of you will speak, preferably on a daily basis. Possibly find a common show for the two of you to watch so you can discuss it, or even a book to read. Additionally, I recommend writing letters on a weekly basis to each other (writing a letter is more personal than email). With regard to the arguments, these are things that happen no matter where you are at. If they are truly small things then just let them go and don't argue about them. Also, is it possible that you are not really arguing about these things, but simply debating them? My girlfriend is a person that sees any mere disagreement as an argument, but mere disagreements in opinions are not necessarily arguments.
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