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writes:Hello i could really use some advice as i just don't know how to cope with all the things life is currently throwing at me. I think i may be depressed. Ive just moved out of my parents for the first time and have got my own house with my fionce. I am 8months pregnant and currently in my final year of university. Im struggling to cope with the stresses of being pregnant, keeping my house tidy while also studying and writing several essays. My baby is due the same time as all my coursework is due in and this is my last chance to get a good grade. I'm not dealing with the pressure too well. I'm also feeling very lonely as my fionce works away and we only see each other one weekend in a month. I see my friends but at the end of the day its just me in this big house on my own. I'm also worrying about money as we have to be careful with what we spend now. I am crying everyday and not sleeping at night, i just don't know how to feel happy and i am terrified that if this carries on i could get post natal depression. Any advice on how to stop stressing would be great as i just dont know what to do. I have never felt this way before.
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reader, Makayla5893  +, writes (26 February 2013):
It definitely sounds like you have a lot on your plate, no wonder you're stressed! Communicating with your partner will definitely help you feel more supported, as well as spending time with your family and friends. Letting your Uni know about your circumstances may mean that you can postpone your exams. Uni's usually try to help their students out when they are having a tough time, so it pays to speak up. A way of stopping negative thoughts that I personally find useful, is to spend time thinking of all the thinks you are grateful for no matter how big or small. For instance 'I'm grateful for this warm bed, food, home, pet etc.' Meditation also helps to clear your mind and relieves stress. Hope everything goes well for you!
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reader, anonymous, writes (24 February 2013): Aww I'm sorry you feel so stressed! It's not good to be this stressed when you're pregnant! A lot of uni's offer student support now, why not try making an appointment? They can talk to you and offer counselling, sometimes it's just nice to talk to somebody :), but I'm sure that having a baby due the same time as your coursework counts as extenuating circumstances! You get maternity leave when you have a job so I'm sure universities must offer some similar support to new parents or parents-to-be. You should get in touch with them and find out, you can't deal with that all alone.Also, make an appointment with your GP. They can be helpful, again if you need counselling, but also if you think you may be suffering from depression then they can help you. They can also offer you advice and give you support with your pregnancy so you don't have to worry about that alone either. You have friends which is good, perhaps you should tell them how you feel so they know and can listen to you and make time for you. You should also tell you fiance how you feel so he knows and can perhaps try to make the effort to talk to you more often. It can't be easy seeing each other so infrequently.It basically sounds like you're stressed out because you're dealing with things alone that you really don't have to. Don't keep things bottled up, talk to people because they can help you. Give yourself the best possible opportunity in your degree by making the university aware of your circumstance and getting some counselling. Get your friends around when you can so you're not alone in the house.And good luck with baby! Xxx
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