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male
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36-40,
*reeneyeswide
writes:So, recently I posted about how my girlfriend of 6 years cheated on me with one of her co-workers. I didn't understand fully why everything happened. There were so many unanswered questions. I didn't understand why she wouldn't just tell me, leave honorably when i gave her "breaks" and chances.Well yesterday, out of the blue, i get a message from someone i don't know in my inbox. Granted you don't open mail from people u don't know, but this one screamed at me to open it. As I read what this person was telling me, I couldn't help but be in shock to find out this person writing was the girlfriend of the guy she cheated on me with. She too had been in a relationship for 6 years. She too was the same age, and im assuming had to live with the guy to know all the information she knew. She knew about him cheating, knew about her, Hell she knew who I was!Now, here come the questions..What the hell was going through minds of both of them? I know only that person truly knows what they were thinking. But for both parties to be in serious relationships, each of 6 years, each with so much to lose. How can they even think that w.e. relationship they try to start will be good in any way or form.How can he cheat on her, and she cheat on me. It still baffles me that my ex comes from a broken home. She had to endure her father cheat on her mom, and step mom, time after time. She had to endure her brothers cheat. She would get so angry, and cry on my shoulder. She would feel so bad for the woman that her father cheated on. Its even ironic, to think she did this to me, when her father just came back from a "business trip" 2 weeks ago, all the while her step mom found evidence of him being unfaithful, and called her to tell her.What do you guys think of all this drama.What do you guys think this other poor woman that is enduring what Im enduring. Im a man, I caught her cheating and kicked her ass out. I haven't spoken to her for a week. But how must it feel for this woman? this is not a love triangle. More like a square with 4 people involved.
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reader, Honeypie +, writes (15 December 2012):
 I think for every one you find cheat there is a story and a "reason" - usually it boils down to, I didn't think it would go this far or I didn't think I would get caught.
The first 3 words is more likely.. I DIDN'T THINK (about anyone but me).
Does the other girls feel like crap? Without a doubt. Male or female she is now faced with having to make the choice, leave - forgive and stay. But for her (as well as for you) trust was shattered, respect was broken, life interrupted.
I don't think it matters whether you are a woman or a man - being cheated on is devastating. I do think though, that woman in general are more wired to try and work it out.
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reader, CMMP +, writes (15 December 2012):
I can't answer all of your questions. However what I would suggest is for you to set up a meeting with this other girl (dinner) and talk with her. It will probably make you feel better and, even better you can see if you two hit it off to get a little revenge and maybe meet someone to help you get over your girl who knows exactly what you're going through.
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