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female
age
41-50,
*aveness
writes:I have been in a near perfect relationship with a Male who wants to be Female for almost three years. When we first met we had hit it off easily. He has had issues with relationships in the past (always flings) presumably because either they only had fucking in mind or he couldn't start something from a drunken evening. He has had a hard time being OK with wanting to be a woman. He told me when we first met that was "wierd". After three dates, he bolted. We got back together after about a week and we went back and forth awhile before settling with "this is too great of a thing" to ignore. We have traditional intercourse about once a week to ten days. While it's not enough for me as I see sex as a very loving connection and often want it, he sees it as using something he doesn't like and just does it to make me happy. Well, now he wants to start taking Hormones, dressing more like a woman, voice lessons, remove all facial hair...etc. I think I am straight. I find certain women beautiful and I LOVE him. Practically unconditionally. I don't mind most of his transformation because he is a smokin hot woman. BUT! i love the male part too. And he wants to have even less intercourse. None at all even. Just oral and snuggles and stuff. Thing is...he hardly likes oral. The idea of moving on with someone else makes me physically ill. I cannot imagine not being with him. I am almost 38 and never married, single mom and I have this wonderful person who is the first person I have ever connected with on so many levels and yet this HUGE issue on the table. I tried to find people with similar issues but its so hard to locate. Anyone out there like us? Help?
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reader, Dear Mandy +, writes (12 May 2011):
 Hi
I understand how difficult this must be for you, but you MUST understand he is incredibly unhappy with his body. Of course he doesn't want sex, because then he would have to use the organ he hates which tells him his still a man. You will either have to except this and stay with him when he becomes a her, OR you have to simply let him go. You can not say you love him yet expect him to be what YOU want, if you truely love him, then you will except this and be there to support him. But as you are aware when he becomes she, are you willing to be seen with, and dating a women? this is a serious situation, and you need to think seriously about him and yourself, weather you can deal with this or not.
I hope this has helped
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