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writes: Still thinking about friend's husband (March 28).Now he is my friend's ex-husband. My feelings have deepened for him and we still talk/text nearly everyday. He never initiates the contact but always responds immediately to my calls/texts. It has now affected my marriage because I am no longer emotionally connected to my husband. Although my husband and I have had counselling, our relationship has spiralled and we are considering a trial separation. This friend does not want to be the cause of my marriage break up but he says I have to be happy in life. I feel I am risking everything I have but after nearly 12 months of turmoil, I am accepting that I don't love my husband and need to be on my own to sort out my feelings - once and for all!
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reader, dolphinrush +, writes (29 July 2006):
Being on your own to sort your feelings out is the best thing to do. Only time can heal and once you are happy with yourself it will become clear as to who you love and want to be with. You can't help who you fall in love with but at the same time its best to be honest. As you will be hurting more that one person if you get together with your friends husband. You must be sure before you risk that.
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reader, Tine  +, writes (29 July 2006):
 but do you think that this "friend" of yours is pushing you towards having this trail seperation because this is what he has done too? If you dont love your husband, fair enough but show him the respect he deserves and stop calling and texting this friend until you've split up. You may say that you 2 are just friends but obviously not if you feel something for this guy. If you need to be on your own, do so. However i get the feeling that once your husband is out of the way this friend of yours will move in and you will not get to experience time to yourself where you can reflect on things that need reflected on. Just think clearly
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reader, Linzi_06 +, writes (29 July 2006):
I think you and your husband should have a trial seperation but during this time i aslo think that you should not contact your friends ex husband. how do you think your husband would feel if he knew that you were in contact with your friends ex, how would your friend feel. how would you feel if it was the other way about. i think after this trial seperation that you are still certain you dont love your husband sut down and talk to hima nd tell him everything. good luck.
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