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writes: Posted on here few weeks back. It has been 5 months now since I found out about the affair he had with her and our baby is now 10 weeks old. I still can't stop grieving for the loss of my old life and hate the fact that he no longer loves me and is still with the girl he had the affair with. He is very over protective of her and seems as though he does not care about me. We dont talk much anymore only briefly when he picks up our sons ( 4 years old and 1). I need help with moving on and developing my life especially when I am a full time mum at present with our three children under 5. I have never had a boyfriend before him and I feel that he was more than that. I feel so down but want him out of my head. Were together 9 years -help!
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reader, anonymous, writes (9 August 2007): Hi you need to give yourself time as people have said its only been a few weeks, I can assure you I found out my partner had been cheating on me in March. I kicked him out in April its nearly 4 months and I can honestly say every day i am so thankful he is not there. After a while you will start to rediscover who you are.Have you got family/friends who can take the kids off your hands for a day so you can chill out, sounds like you have a lot of responsibility. Even if you dont find any clubs to join there are some really good forums out there on the internet, it helps to know you are not alone. Take each day as it comes and dont let him mess with you head.
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reader, YummyMummy  +, writes (8 August 2007):
 You will move on in time hun. Don't put too much pressure on yourself. Can you ask your doctor for some info on some groups that might help?
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reader, anonymous, writes (7 August 2007): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionThanks for the reply. Alot of people have told me to join some groups and I think I will try and access some tommorow. I have seen a psychatrist but I am not sure if it was for me. I think I need to go to a workshop or see someone who can give me active techniques to cope but I dont know where to find these people. I hate my ex, but I love my ex, I miss my ex, I want my ex but He doesnt deserve me. I am so jealous of her and wish she was not in the picture. I no I need to move on it is just so much easy to know it than to do it.
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reader, YummyMummy +, writes (4 August 2007):
I'm so sorry hun to hear of your pain.
Are there any mum and baby groups where you live that you can join? Just to keep you busy and make new friends and things.
Is there anybody you can talk to about how you are feeling, like your mum or even a counseller? It doesn't make you a nutcase. I went to see a psychiatrist for about 18 months and it was the best thing I ever did :)
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