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writes:My ex is four years older than I am and we dated for over two years, about a year of which became long distance when he moved to complete his education. When we broke up, he'd been going out with his current girlfriend for over half a year already.It's been almost half a year since we split and I've been with my current boyfriend for almost three months. My boyfriend loves me very much and is very very nice to me (dangerously to the point of smothering me). He was there to help me out during the breakup with my ex, so he has some insecurities about whether he's just a rebound guy, although he asked me out, knowing this 'risk'....I don't think his securities are completely unfounded though. I try my best to lessen his worries but I can't bring myself to tell him that I love him as much as he loves me--because I know that I don't. I still talk to my ex, basically on a daily basis, mostly on the phone (and sometimes online). I feel much more affectionate towards him than my boyfriend at these times, and I've also come to forgive him. I reached a breaking point two weeks ago and my ex confessed that he still has deep feelings for me and wants to get back together in the future...but with our schooling, this won't be for another few years, at least.I'm just pretty frustrated!
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reader, chlez83  +, writes (23 November 2007):
You really shouldn't have rushed into another relationship and i guess your current is really a rebound guy.You have no choice but to break his heart because the fact still reamains that you love your ex and are willing to get back with him.Just hold on there,didn't you say the dude was seeing sum2 for six months befor finally calling it off with you?Do you want to break your heart again?What makes you think all this time you are both in school,he won't cheat on you?There's also the possibilty of you being the other girl but i can only guess you are willing to fight for him to get him back.You really need to asses the risks involved with getting back with your ex.I would strongly advise you to stick to your current man.You'll learn to love him as time goes by and stop communicating with your ex,you'll never get over him that way and he may be manipulating you.
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reader, muffy +, writes (23 November 2007):
 well you should move on because the guy your with really loves you.if he cares that much then be with him.you shouldnt wait for the guy that moved because its gonna be awhile anyways.stay with your boyfriend and try to get over your ex.try to love your boyfriend right now as much as you do your ex and in time youll get over your ex and hell get over you.
i hope i helped
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reader, anonymous, writes (23 November 2007): You said yourself you won't be getting back with him. I suggest you cut contact, for a good while. Get over him. Talking to him every day will only make the pain worse.
You can tell your boyfriend you need some space too. Tell him you're cutting contact with your ex and you want some space from him too, to figure out what you really want. Go back to him when you're ready, and know he'll be there if you need the emotional support. DO NOT turn to your ex for ANYTHING. Good luck.
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reader, xx-kate-xx +, writes (22 November 2007):
 tell me about it , but hey just remeber that some people aint worth it , and theree was probably a goodreson you broke up and it was probably for the best , maybe you miss having a boyfreind , some1 to kiss ,more than you relly miss him
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