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female
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30-35,
*ilish
writes:I've been with my boyfriend for nine months now and everything was great at first. I'm 17 and he's 18. Just before he went out with me, he was with a girl for 6 months and apparently they were 'first loves'. This girl came back into the picture at about 7 months in. She's crazy about my boyfriend and would do anything to be back with him - over my dead body!Anyway, even when I was with my boyfriend she was going round to his house to 'see his mum' apparently, obviously trying to get my boyfriend back. Me and his Mum don't get on as she's never warmed to me, she'd rather have his ex round the house. I felt a bit out of place so I don't go round much anymore.She then tried talking to my boyfriend on MSN, saying how much she loved him and how she wanted to get back with him. Her friend then came and told me he mailed her back saying he still had feelings for her. I asked him about this, and he said he'd told her he DID have feelings for her but he's with me now. But her friend said that why she was so confused about the whole thing. :/We ended up having a break because of arguing so much about it. Anyway we met up to talk for a bit and he told me to read a message from his friend off his phone. as I went down his messages there was texts from his ex. I was furious and I read them and they were being really flirty. Then she said how she wishes she could be with him and he replied I'm sorry :/ xxx' He said it was because he was so upset and lonely after losing me. We got back together but ever since it's been playing on my mind. I argued with her so many times over him, she interfered so much and made me so mad all the time. We argued constantly over her. I always ask him if he has feelings for her but he says no of course not. He also says he hates her but he said he hated her before we went on a break that time then ended up talking to her! Why did he go text her as soon as we were on a break after all the shit she caused? And does he still have feelings for her, even though he says he doesn't?
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reader, Honeypie  +, writes (11 May 2011):
 Tell him to piss or get off the pot.
It's time for him to make up his mind, If he wants to be with you he needs to "let her go". If he wants to be with HER , he needs to let YOU go, so YU can move on. He can't have it both ways.
Then the two of you need to set some ground rules for what you BOTH find appropriate as far as contact with male/female friends and exes.
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