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writes:Hello. I just want to say Im a good man off the bat! I NEED some serious HELP! OK so Im 33 married for 4 years been with wife for 15 years. When I met her she always was messy. Never cleaning her room or her car. Ive always been some]what easy going and relaxed and seem to be more as time goes on. SHE would always fight with me about everything. And even if it was something small it would be a HUGE fight. So We got married, Bought a home 2 years ago and ever since then we have been fighting like cats and dogs about EVERYTHING! STUPID STUFF!!She doesnt clean, wash clothes. Only cooks.It takes me a lot to yell. I fight like if im talking. WELL!! I Had to go under the knife for HEART SERGERY 6 months ago! Doc said if I dont have it done Ill be dead in Nov. Now during this time she would fight about having kids! That was the last thing on my mind. THE NIGHT BEFORE MY SURGERY 11 HOURS SHE KEPT ME UP YELLING SCREAMING AND FLIPPING OUT SHE WANTED KIDS. I lost it. 1st time I ever grabbed her. I then relaxed n went to bed. The day of my surgery she was somewhat better. I came threw the surgery in lots of pain but she deff. helped me. I wanted out though!! I started talking to this old friend of mine from when we were kids. She has a son and her husband passed away from cancer. I have always loved this girl and now shes back. We quickly became best friends and talked everyday. I have never cheated before and I did with her... I liked being with her. I can say I LOVE HER. I KNOW BECAUSE IF I COULD BRING HER HUSBAND BACK I WOULD even if that ment we couldnt talk anymore!! OK so I left my new house with my wife and moved in with my mom. Its been 6 months since I ve been home and I have a few friends with benefits now, I know its wrong but I never had woman like this before. Its been 8 months since ive been with my wife(sex) and IM looking back at the life we had! the money,(shes a nurse) the house(bought at peek of market) and with my old friend she doesnt work, owns a co-op, has family with money, and if we have kids she wants to stay home with them. My wife would work BUT with the wife she gets mad so quick, shes hit me on 3 occations, no1 in my family likes her. She is a bitch 80% of the time. But my house, money,I wont have kids with her!! I feel like one day im just going to shoot myself.... I cant make up my mind and I know its not fair to them. I want to be happy, not worry about money and live the rest of my life as if it was my last. I have read a few stoies on here that apply to me but just feel I have to tell mt story. PLEASE SOMEONE HELP! I need help to make up my mind!
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reader, anonymous, writes (13 March 2009): the greates thing youl ever learn is just to love and be loved in return .i beleve in that. the one u love is soposto be your bestfriend also im getting verry personal w/ u my sister my only sister once said live life day by day she's gone now do what makes you happy. girl in AK i think nobody deserves to be treated the way she treats you keep your head up
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reader, bd2009 +, writes (12 March 2009):
i think you should go with your heart. money isnt everything.
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reader, anonymous, writes (12 March 2009): Let me start with congrats for making it through the surgery. It sounds to me like you are very unhappy with your wife. Are you in love with her? I doubt it from what I read. Ask yourself this, do you want to spend the rest of your life feeling like you do when you are with her? And if feeling like you are going to shoot yourself isnt any indication, I dont know what is! The material things that you are missing you can always get at another time. Just work toward it. You are right about one thing though. This isnt fair to either of them. You do have to make up your mind. You cant have your cake and eat it too. I know its hard to give one up but whoever you dont pick needs to be able to move on with their life. Good luck.
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reader, anonymous, writes (12 March 2009): What is more important to you? Your health and sanity or what you wear and drive?
If you have an answer to that, you will have an answer to your 'dilemma'.
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