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female
age
36-40,
anonymous
writes:I have recently just started seeing an ex of mine.. We dated when we were 18 for about 3 months, so nothing major or to serious.. At the time I was head over heels for him.. He was amazingly good looking and had all the perfect things to say.. being 18 I was quite nieve. He ended up breaking up with me over a text message after a night of drunken sex. I recently ended a 3yr relationship, which was the best decision of my life! I swore I wouldn't date or see any guys for a long long time... 1month later my ex pops into the picture, letting me know how much he has changed as it has been 4years since we dated, and that he realizes what an asshole he was and that he was just young and stupid. We have been hanging out a lot recently, and we have both expressed that we don't want to jump into anything, though he says eventually he will want to date me and make things better then before. However as for now I am not sure what we are, we hangout fool around.. but I told him no sex until he can prove himself to me. He has told me he doesn't want us to be doing this kind of thing with anyone else, the going on dates, making out, fooling around.. whatever it is we are. I am not sure if perhaps he is using me again, or if really he has changed since were not 18 anymore? He seems so far to have changed he takes me out to dinner, he seems more genuinely interested about things in my life, those are just two examples of things he never did before. However I don't want to get hurt, as he is just one of those guys that sweep you off your feet so easily. I have been trying to keep a wall up, but I'm starting to develop feelings for him and I want to be sure it wont end in a broken heart again! However after 3yrs in a horrible relationship, it finally feels so good to feel this excited about someone.. I had forgot what it was like to feel like this, and be excited to wake up and start my day! Any advice is greatly appreciated!
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reader, Starlights  +, writes (9 July 2009):
 you dont want to jump into this and your being cautious which is good.
i would advise carry on seeing him on a friends basis before moving onto a relationship.
people can change, but u dont want to jump into this on the rebound and get hurt.
good luck!
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