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writes:Ok I have a question....my and my girl (LDS) where going to have sex, but she wanted to take my virginity....bareback if you will. No protection for the immediate start. Well we did and then I put a condom on and we had sex.Now I am worried.....can pre-cum get a girl pregnant???Cause i am pretty worried about her being pregnant now....thanks
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reader, daletom +, writes (29 August 2010):
Is there something you haven't said that makes you especially worried she may be pregnant? I have waited out a pregnancy scare due to a late period - which was especially upsetting because we hadn't even had penis-in-vagina sex yet - so I know what you're feeling. If for no other reason than your mental health, have her get a pregnancy test as soon as trustworthy results are likely. (I think none of the home pregnancy tests are useful until after she misses a period; some blood tests can give results a week or less after conception.)
The technical terms for what you describe range from "coitus interruptus" to "pull and pray". Many people who use this method are called "mommy" or "daddy". If you seed a search engine with ' contraceptive effectiveness "pull out" ' you can find many citations which claim the effectiveness ranges from 96% (for 100 couples using the method for an entire year, 4 women will get pregnant) down to around 65% (35 pregnancies annually per 100 couples). You're probably closer to the 96% value, since the 65% includes a lot of cases where he didn't pull out in time. So if you're a betting man the odds are in your favor that she's NOT pregnant. But if she IS pregnant then it's a 100% thing - no girl has ever been "a little bit pregnant". (Teens who use NO contraceptive method at all can expect about 90 pregnancies per year.)
I actually admire her for wanting to take your virginity like that. (Did she do anything else to make it special for you, or to help you last longer?) I'd encourage both boys and girls to lose their virginity with natural, naked-genital intercourse (and no pulling out).
That does NOT mean you should be irresponsible or cavalier about your sexual activity! Contraception and STD's are VERY REAL problems that you MUST face - and I don't think you've found a good solution to these problems yet. "Condoms" is NOT the only solution, and perhaps not even an effective solution for very inexperienced couples. Quite aside from their effect on the physical sensations, for both of you, they upset the flow of lovemaking. That's not a good thing for a nervous, inexperienced guy. More importantly you are too likely to use a condom incorrectly, eliminating all the safety and protection it's expected to provide. If that is your long-term solution to these problems then learn to use condoms correctly and effectively, but in the meantime you really need to have other ways to deal with birth control and STD's.
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reader, anonymous, writes (29 August 2010): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionok, thank youI was more than 48 hours ago. It was about a week ago, and her period should start sometime next week.And i wasn't in that long, it ran through my head as I was, so I didn't exactly take my time before putting a condom on.But in the future I definitely will.
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reader, Moo's Mum  +, writes (28 August 2010):
 Yes precum can get a girl pregnant. If the sex was less than 48 hours ago she can take the moring after pill. Do you know where she was in her cycle? 1 week before a period is due is a fairly (but not 100%) safe time to have unprotected sex. Otherwise take a pregnancy test and then you will know one way or the other.
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reader, kirra07  +, writes (28 August 2010):
It's pretty unlikely that you would have got her pregnant. Precum already has a lower rate of impregnating someone. People that are actually trying to have a baby can take up to a year to get pregnant. So I wouldn't worry too much about it if it has been a one time thing. But from now on, use protection. Just wait and see, you should know around when her period is supposed to start.
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