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writes: I met my girlfriend last year on holiday & we hit off immediately.In fact it is very fair to say that in the beginning she was far keener than me....she did most of the chasing & was the one that asked me out. The first 4 months were fantastic, we got on so well, had so much in common & as well as being lovers were also best mates. We led our own lives, went out with our own mates but still found plenty of time for each other. It was perfect & I felt so lucky.Before Xmas she even asked me to go on holiday with her so I thought that she was quite serious about me.However, at Xmas time I started to notice a change in her attitude towards me, she began to be moody, & also very cold to me on some occasions. Also, our sex life went from being great to non existent. Finally, I asked her what the problem was. She said that she wasn't sure if she wanted to be in a relationship anymore! I was shocked. She explained that she had been going out with her ex for 4 years and was only single for a short while before she met me. She said at the time she thought she wanted another relationship but now she wasn't sure! I have difficulty in understanding this, if she had said this @ the beginning I could except it but we are now 6 months down the line. I can't understand why she is ruining everything. She says that I am fantastic bloke, she loves spending time with me, & that she thinks that I am right for her! What more is there?! We met up the other day, I thought it was going to be to split up & to say good bye to each other. When we met she started crying & said that she hated doing this to me, she said she still wasn't sure & part of her still wanted to be with me. I said did she need some time? & she said that she would like a break to be able to think about things......she didn't want throw what we had a way. We agreed on a month apart. After we had finished talking we stayed out together had a few drinks & than went for a meal...it was like nothing had changed.....we had a great time together & such a laugh. At the end of the night we kissed for ages. To me this just underlined how great we are together & I have to admit I was half expecting a call soon afterwards from her wanting to give it another go. She hasn't called though. This was only over a week ago but I can't think of anything else! It's doing my head in! I feel like I should be doing something? I don't want her to forget about me...I don't want her to get used to being with out me.... What should I do? Should I do anything for her for Valentines? I've got to get her back...& I know she has feelings for me to.
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reader, anonymous, writes (22 February 2008): Dude the same exact thing happened to me. I was going out with my ex for 4 months. Everything was going great. We had dated before and decided to get back together after 3 years. But before we ever met she had a long term relationship with her first love, that lasted 4 years . He broke her heart by cheating on her with his ex. She took the break up pretty hard and cut any form of communication with him. I recently got my computer fixed and found him on her My*****. I was hurt so I immediately called her asking her why is he on her friends list. Anyway to make a long story short, she tells me that she added him on purpose to see if I trust her, but that it was obvious that I didn't. So she broke up with me erased me from her friends list, doesn't call anymore and put her page private. The saddest thing of all is that it was on Valentines day
A reader, carlz, writes (11 February 2005): hi,i am going through the same situation so dont worry, i understand how you feel.To me this seems like she still hasn't made up her mind. She sounds like she really likes you alot and doesn't want to finish with you. But as she just came out of a relationship then went straight into another one, she has probably been hurt.She probably just doesn't want to get hurt again or get too deep into a relationship with someone she cares about. It sounds like she is scared of her feelings and her kissing you, was her way of coming to terms with her feelings. She needs to make sure of how she feels before making any rush decisions.Give it a few weeks for her to think about how she feels. Trust me, a girl needs a long time to come to terms with how she feels. Relationships are scary as girls tend to get hurt the most.If you really care for her you will give her at least another week. You don't want to rush her, she might do or say something she regrets.x_carlz_x
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