| A
female
,
*auxx
writes: hey every1, i split up with my boyfriend about jus over a month ago, we were only together 2 months! but we split up because a very close relative 2 him died and he needed his space, so i gave it him, since then he has got back with his ex! but i have been speaking 2 his brother like every day he txts me he is the same age, i dont like him like that we are jus really good friends, and he is coming down to see me next month! do you think its a good idea? i was going to go up to him and his family aswell? i dont know what 2 do. my ex's brother is a really good mate we get on so well, my brother is gettin married in 2 weeks and he said 2 bring him but is it a good idea?
View related questions:
his ex, my ex, split up Reply to this Question
Share |
Fancy yourself as an agony aunt? Add your answer to this question! A
female
reader, sweet and sour +, writes (21 June 2006):
 Why should there be any issues with you being friends with this guy. As long as you are sure that feelings more then friends dont materialise from this friendship there is nothing wrong with you enjoying the company of this guy. all i can say is be wary visiting his family as tensions may still be high with his brother. but as for him visiting you and going to your brothers wedding there shouldn't be any issue whatso ever.
A
reader, anonymous, writes (20 June 2006): To be honest, dear..until you have fully healed and recovered from the breakup with your friend's brother..why don't you just back away from visiting with this guy and his family. You run the risk of causing some hurt, awkward feelings among this family, especially if you run into your ex bf and his gf. This could be a very, uncomfortable situation for everyone. And this is not just about how you feel. or what you want....there is a whole family here to think about. Be friends with your ex's brother do it for genuine, good reasons but think clearly, and stay away from this family until you are totally 'over' your ex bf. I say this, because, I get the feeling you aren't over this ex-that you may still want close contact, anyway you can get it. If so...not a good thing to do, dear. And I hope you have been upfront and honest with the ex's brother who wants to come and see you. Let him know..he is just a friend. And be friends with him because you like and respect him as a person...don't view him as a way to get back into your ex bf's life. You run the risk of hurting him, if you lead him on. Do the work, get over the ex, get out and make great and wonderful new friends..have fun. I wish you the best, dear. Good luck
...............................
|
