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writes: I am a 22years old young man currently in love with a nice looking young lady and we have being in love for six months this girl was at first the girl friend to my good friend but they broke up because they discovered that they were cousins, but the guy couldn’t accept the situation up to this time. Dear sir/madam, when this girl came at school, because the three of us were at the same school and it was boarding school for that matter. i wanted to start going out with this girl but I came to know that my friend had already approached her and the same day I was placed in a dilemma, was asked by my friend that I should tell the girl the back ground of the guy I found my self in a dilemma because if I said the truth about the guy he was going to be anoid because the truth about the guy is that he was a frick and most girls knew about it and the girl was told by the girls and the only solution for the guy was to come to me because he knew she was going to believe me. so I was forced to tell lies and the girl was convinced and that is how the relationship between them started and I had to accept the situation and lived like that but I actual; sense ihad love for that and I still have love for her up to now and I will continue having love for this girl. The relationship between them lasted for 18 months and in 2005 they broke up and I heard about the issue and the girl is the one who told me about them breaking up. I developed more interest in the girl and I was very patient until I confirmed from the guy what was happening and the truth as that the two were cousins but the guy could not accept that, so I took some time afterwards that when I approached the girl and she accepted my proposal and that is how our relationship started up to this time now were the problem comes in is that the girl wants the relationship to an end and the reason is that she feels that the cousin who was the boy friend and who happened to my friend will feel bad when he hears about this and when people hear that we are going out they might think it was just a setup. what should I do I love this girl and I don’t want to lose her and I don’t want my friend to think it was just a set up please help me sort out this problem. I love this very much. Cheers bye.
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reader, israel +, writes (22 June 2006):
israel is verified as being by the original poster of the questionshe has started keeping quiet when i call on phone and when i asked her that have lost interest in tooking to me she was very proud to say yes. so how do i gain her interest again and make thing get rolling i love this girl and am very sure i dont want to lose her please people help. this is all i have.cheers! and have a nice day
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reader, ThugBoyBB +, writes (21 June 2006):
well i think you should just tell your friend face to face that it wasent a set up and if he dosent believe you then if they are cousins there should be proof. but if he still dosent belive well you just have to make a decision of which person you care about more. i know that the girl i love is someone that i would do anything for. she is my girl and my best friend. and if i have to pick her over a friend thats how it has to be. if you really love this girl then nothing else should matter because you might not get another chance to be with her. so dont mess it up now.
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reader, happytochat  +, writes (21 June 2006):
Ok so to just clear up a few little thigns, this girl who is now your gf who you proposed to wants to end it because she is afraid her ex will be upset who is her cousion?
I think you need to explain to your gf that she can't live her life tip toeing around people and trying not to hurt anyway because she can't please EVERYONE so someone will get hurt in some way or another.
Tell her that she needs to do what is best for her and if she loves you then isnt it best for her to be with you?
He cousion is obvisouly hurting that the relationship between him and her had to end, and finding out that she has moved on with his friend could make it worse but in the end, he has to accept it one way or another. He can't expect her to not move on and go back with him if she doesnt want too.
Explain to your friend that it wasn't a setup...thats all you can do is tell the truth and hope he will understand. Either way his reaction will probably be full of hurt and anger but he will get through it, so don't worry about him. You and her have to do what is best for you two.
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