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writes:My boyfriend of 6 years broke up with me a few days ago. We recently got engaged (8 weeks ago)and now i don't know what to do. We have been together since school and i always put him first and now i feel i have nothing? I still love him and don't know what to do - any advice?
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reader, anonymous, writes (21 May 2008): thanks for the comment & advice jabey, in answer to what you said he did say he still loved me and the reason for splitting up was that he wanted different things. As i said we only got engaged 8 weeks ago which he wanted to do, i didn't force him!! So i just don't know whats happened as we hadn't even been arguing! it was completely unexpected.
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reader, Lonely_B  +, writes (21 May 2008):
6 years,that must hurt.But why?Is there any strong reason?
You must win he back,if there is not any reason.But if have some reasons tell us,free your soul.
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reader, jabey +, writes (21 May 2008):
it is hard to answer not knowing why he broke up with you. |Did he claim he didnt love you anymore? had you had a row?
|I would really need to know what he said to have a clearer perpective on it.
|Now is time to give him some space, and work really hard on yourself. you have known him so long, maybe during all that time together, you lost some of who you are.
See this as a new beginning, with or without him. Try hard to go out with friends, read a book, learn a new skill. decorate/change your home/room around. listen to music. Try to find out about you. W|hat you like, who you are, what dreams and aspirations you have. Exercise when you can, even if it is just a brisk walk.
When you have spent some really important time on yourself, call him up. Be friendly and casual, he may be intrigued by this new independant different woman. You have given him breathing space.
i|t is such a true saying, when you really love someone let them be free, if they come back they love you to.
|Sadly you will be unable to force him back, but by showing him how you care and respect yourself, it will be easier for him to care and respect you.
Start today as you mean to go on. you cannot control what he does, but you have full control in what you do.
|Good luck........ xxxxx
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