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writes:I just found out I am pregnant and me and my boyfriend have been together for almost a year. One month shy of a year. I want some kind of committment from him or else, I am moving at the end of our lease term in December of this year. He said he wants to marry me but just not right now. He doesn`t want to be rushed into marriage which I completely understand, but I just want some kind of serious committment. Do you think he will ever marry me, or is he just saying that to lead me on?
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reader, anonymous, writes (21 May 2008): Do you want a big wedding or a small wedding? A big wedding with little or no money, and your apparent ages (early twenties) will scare most guys, for fear the stress of not paying bills.
Together a year is not very long to get married, but having a child is, but as noted, is not critical. Granted, once the child is born, there maybe an extra step to get the childs last name changed to him.
Has he given any reasons why he doesn't want to get married? Have you asked? If you haven't, then this is not a good sign in a relationship, especially with a child on the way. You barely know each other. Time to start talking and getting to know how each of you will act and take roles in the marriage.
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reader, Lonely_B  +, writes (21 May 2008):
Does he love you girl?If you belive in his love you don;t need a meriage to be happy.That will come,but the love is most important.If he love you everything will be alright.
And remember,a child from the one who love is bleesing.
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reader, anonymous, writes (21 May 2008): hey - you know - that really isn't your main problem right now. regardless of whether or not he will marry you, you both now have a huge commitment to your unborn child. Would it be nice for him to marry you now? sure. but if i were you, i wouldn't be making ultimatums about cutting him out of your life when you are about to embark on the largest challenge you have ever faced. -which by the way lasts the rest of your life! so talk it over, express how you feel, and you may find that you can figure out a solution that you are both comfortable with, that will positively affect your child!
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reader, shellycammon +, writes (21 May 2008):
We really need to talk! LOL i am going through the EXACT same situation except for my bf wont even move in with me because mommy moved in with him. i know that this is a hard time and situation and i think that you should tell him that if he wont at least propose to you that you and his baby are going to leave and that is that. stand firm and follow through with your actions i dont know what kind of situation your in but this is what im going to do.
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