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writes:If I want to give my boyfriend head what do I do with the sperm? People say spit or swallow but I don't want to swallow so where do I spit it?
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reader, anonymous, writes (26 July 2008): The only person who should care whether you're having sex at any age is you. (Provided your partner is within a reasonable age of you, as well.) If you feel you're ready, then far be it from me to say that you shouldn't be having it. I know that when I was thirteen, I would have done just about anything to find a girl willing to be intimate with me.
And yes, technically, you should use a condom every time to be safe. But I'm guessing that your boyfriend is about as old as you, and as such his list of past partners is about as long as yours. If you know your partner is STD-free, then there's no need for condoms. (For oral sex ONLY, I mean.)
But to answer your question: It doesn't really matter whether you spit or swallow. I know most guys prefer it to be swallowed, and I am among those. But if you don't feel comfortable with it, then don't be pressured into it. That's true for anything, really, including any other form of intimacy.
But as for "where" to spit, the only thing you can really do is plan ahead or think on your feet. If you dislike swallowing, and you know you're going to spit, then simply have a glass, waste basket, towel, etc. already set up before you perform.
I hope I've answered your questions, and best of luck to you.
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reader, concerned88  +, writes (7 July 2008):
As it has been stated YOU ARE TOO YOUNG! Since you are going to do what you please, I always spit in a trash can.
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reader, scrazy +, writes (5 July 2008):
 No.
Just no. You don't put it in your mouth at all! That's the best option, no spitting or swallowing involved!
I'm Canadian as well and you are UNDERAGED in our country! Do not do it.
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reader, anonymous, writes (5 July 2008): I won't say stuff like you're too young...etc. since you're gonna do it anyway. I'd just say that CONDOM is your friend. Some STIs i.e. HSV1 (Herpes Simplex), HSV2 (Genital Herpes), HPV (Human Papilloma Virus "Genital Warts") and more STIs can transmit via oral sex. Enjoy, but be safe!
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reader, talker +, writes (5 July 2008):
 #1 I agree...you are too young to be doing this for a boyfriend. Sex, in any form, complicates things so much. Would you be able to wait to do this for him until you were together for a lot longer? Wait until you're at least 17. Please. #2 If you're that young, then it's true...spitting or swallowing shouldn't be an issue because you should be using a condom when doing this. You never know for sure until you've been with the person for a long time if they have been fooling around with someone nasty. Then you're trying to do something nice and you get some horrible STD. If in any case, it's not one of those STD's that could make you horribly sick or are fatal...it would be pretty embarrassing walking through the halls with a huge sore on your mouth and having everyone ask you where you got it. Plus, how much do you trust him? Are you sure he's not going to go around telling everyone at school that you gave him head?#3 Sex can be very exciting when two people consent to have it and when it's under the right circumstances. With that said...in the future, when you're old enough...you'll learn that spitting or swallowing doesn't matter. If you want to spit, spit. Now, where? on the floor. Sex is messy. End of story.But please, don't do it until you've been with him and trust him for a while. For 13 year olds that would be until you're 17....for 15 year olds that would be until you're 17. Get it? Learn from others mistakes...sex at a young age is no good. Even oral sex.
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reader, lexilou  +, writes (5 July 2008):
 Wait until you are old enough to work it out for yourself x
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reader, anonymous, writes (5 July 2008): hey its true what these guys are saying you are so young and you shouldn't be in a rush to do anything like this i waited until i was 19 and even then sometimes i feel it was too early
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reader, anonymous, writes (5 July 2008): Have you considered asking your mom this question?
No I bet not; she will not approve of you doing it; Am I correct?
Yet, you want advise because your boyfriends is aksing you to do it?
Have you considered all the risks attached?
Have you considered the consequences if you get caught?
I suggest you avoid doing it; as you are still to young;
However, if you are not going to listen to the best advise; NOT TO DO IT yet; I suggest you listen to the advice given by "Lazyguy"; use a condom.
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reader, LazyGuy  +, writes (5 July 2008):
 The SAFE option and the one you REALLY should be using is to use a condom.
STD's can happen just as much from oral sex as from intercourse. More so, because your mouth is constantly receiving small wounds from eating. You never have to notice it, the wound only has to be small enough to let a virus through.
USE A CONDOM unless you are absolutely 100% sure you partner is CLEAN and will continue to be clean.
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reader, anonymous, writes (5 July 2008): It's true what the others say, you are way underage for any sexual activity. However nothing anyone tells you is going to make a scrap of difference so as you have asked for advice: keep a mansize tissue handy and spit it into that. No problem!
Take care, be discreet and be safe.
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reader, anonymous, writes (5 July 2008): I would have love to have given you some advice, but unfortunately you are under age and therefore I have nothing to say.
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reader, anonymous, writes (5 July 2008): Take in a mug? I don't know, I always swallow - once it's in your mouth, then so is the taste. Spitting it out doesn't make it go away.
HOWEVER! I don't think you should be practising any kind of sexual acts right now. Wait until you're above the age of consent.
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