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writes: I'm getting incredibly mixed signals from a guy I like! I met him 2 months ago, and we've carried on chatting since. Thing is, I don't know where I stand with him. Our last telephone call lasted 8 hours (on his phone bill), in which we found out a lot about each other, shared secrets and told stories! On the other hand, if I try to talk to him on messenger, he'll sometimes blow me off and sometimes even block me for the evening! Sometimes he'll talk to me quite happily however!I don't know what he thinks of me, or whether he even genuinely likes me. It's eating away at me and stressing me out.I've not ever had a boyfriend, am I doing something wrong? How can I find out what he thinks of me? Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (24 October 2005): Ever read 'men are from Mars, women are from Venus'?
It describes men as rubber bands, they get close, then need to pull away before coming back and being close again. Cant remeber why, perhaps get a copy of the book, might make you feel better.
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reader, anonymous, writes (20 October 2005): Dear, it seems from what you are saying, he is just looking for friendship right now and you need to be patient and let this relationship grow, over time. Please recognize that you "don't" have to be in a relationship or have a bf to feel whole. You are an amazing, wonderful, whole person without a bf to love you. Believe that first before pursuing any relationships. The most important relationship we can all have..is with ourselves.
So with that said, on to this guy you've been chatting with. You are not doing anything wrong, dear except maybe acting a bit too needy and desperate. You want to give this guy the feeling that you "want" a relationship-not that you "have to" have this relationship! If you think you may be doing this-it could have turned him off. Desperation does seep through, in one's voices and in other verbal clues. Just got to watch that. But don't ever be someone you're not-but have a broad range of who you are. I would suggest you not take his "hot and cold interest levels" to heart, dear. He is young like you and likely talks to a number of other people if he's on messenger. He is going slow and wants to be "just friends" first, which is smart of him. And I feel you should be doing the same. You can never rush great things...and if this is meant to be, it will happen but it will take time.
Accept that if you have never had a bf before-this guy will NOT be the first guy you will like. If this doesn't work out, learn from this and don't be too hard on yourself. This is the wonderful thing about being young and discovering potential love in our lives. If something doesn't pan out, we can look at things honestly and learn from that. Heck, we do that at any age. Take care, dear and remember to enjoy life, be happy and keep smiling!
Hugs,
Irish
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