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writes:So im 16 and ive had a boyfriend for a year and 3 months and we're both each others first relationship and hook up, neither of us have been with anyone else. hes always been pretty protective and would get a little mad when i talked to guys around school. when we met we were both really shy and self conscious and we were there for eachother so it worked. but now my personality has changed and im far more outgoing than i was a year and a half ago. and hes pretty much stayed the same and im sorta all he has bc he doesnt really have any best friends.. but just because ive canged i dont want that to automatically mean we have to end our relationship cause im a different person than who i was. but sometimes i find myself stuck with him and i feel like im missing out on the whole highschool dating thing and being with different guys and ive told him that and at first he was extremely shocked and angry and depressed and told me we should just wait until college to see other people and that i could do whatever i wanted then, but day later he was ok with me just randomly hooking up with someone else and then coming back to him. now i just dont know how this will work-- what i don't want is to lose the connection and bond i have with my boyfriend for someone else bc i love him so much but at the same time i get like these random urges to be with another guy and I get so curious to whats its like. but other times its like no one else matters but me and him and im so happy with him sometimes that i couldnt even imagine why id even think of seeing another guy.basically i need help. i dont know what to do-
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reader, anonymous, writes (17 June 2009): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionthanks for all your responses. so helpful!
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reader, ilovebowsandcherries  +, writes (17 June 2009):
 hun you're going to feel like this you're still so young and you just want to experience having various relationships with other guys.
it's totally natural. i mean you probably feel what if the guy you're with now isn't the one? and he's actually out there and you're not able to find him because you're with someone...
if you're happy with him then stay with him but if you feel you want to have a wider variety then end it with him but stay friends. just because you end doesn't mean you can't be friends. but do whatever you feel will be better for you yourself.
relationships can make a person grow more confident with themselves and become more outgoing not all do but alot can i mean relationships are to be learnt from that's how i see things.
anyways do what you feel is right and better for you.
Hope this helps hun :) x x x good luck
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reader, anonymous, writes (17 June 2009): i know exactly what you mean.
When i met my bf we were both shy and sensitive and totally th op of the loud ones. It aws amazing getting together we really lifted each other up and changed each other.
Now ive been with him for like 1 year and a half and i feel weird like theres something missing. Not to be up myself- but guys will constantly hit on me, ask me out..etc. and i feel tempted by all the excitement but i always stay loyal to my bf. and i wonder if i truly love him even though im only 17 or im just being loyal to him.
but i know its not a self issue or anything because ive been asked out heaps before i met him i just didnt like any of the guys there were all sex obessed dumb guys and hes not :)
I tried dumping him a few times. it didnt work. i was devastated miserable it didnt work with other guys missed him so bad and id always take him back and im not ever gonna dump him for that reason again i never want to break his heart. so i think i do love him but im still not completely sure. hopefully he doesnt read this and guess who i am.
anyway hope that helped in some way!...
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reader, love-struckxo  +, writes (17 June 2009):
 I know exactly how you feel. Me and my boyfriend were in love - we were both serious about eachother, we were eachothers first also, but after nine months, I started to feel to 'tied' down. It was hard, but I ended it. I didn't want to feel like I was married when I was that young!
But then again, their are those people who marry there childhood sweetheart, and they are never with anybody else. It's crazy!
I understand why you feel this way. You are young, and you want to experience things, that is fine. But you have to ask yourself if it's worth of possibly loosing somebody you love in the end.
My best suggestion, would be for you guys to take a break, not call it quits. Just to cool off for a while. It would give you guys both a chance to meet other people and see someone else. If you guys are really meant to be with eachother, then you guys will end up back together anyways!
But you don't want to waste your whole teenage years - on somebody you weren't really suppose to be anyway. These are suppose to be the best years of our lives!!
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"If you love somebody, let them go. If they return, they were always yours. If they don't, they never were.”
Take care
xx
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