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female
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36-40,
anonymous
writes:I have been reading a million articles about communication. Not just romantic communication. I feel like this has affected my new realationship negatively. I have been practicing the non-blaming, understanding the other person's point of view, validation of my partner's feeling then a proposal for a compromise/middle ground.He certainly listens to my point of view but afterward says the feelings I expressed I was having are ridiculous, I am acting childish, I am reading into a situation too much, or being overdramatic. These words from the articles I read make me understand this as him not excersing constructive communcation like I am. The conversation goes on and on (where sometimes I feel like if we just yelled at eachother it would end quicker). I am torn between giving up the I statements etc., continue and hope he catches on, or just let go of him eventhough 95% he is exactly what I want.Any advice? Does my situation seem hopeless? Am I giving these constructive communication articles too much credit?I am trying to lead by example but he sees it as me not getting him when I don't concede to his view point. I amEvery other aspect is great, we Reply to this Question
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reader, Emilysanswers  +, writes (23 May 2010):
I think you need to tell him that he needs to work on his communication.
He's being what is known in popular psychology as "a complete dick."
So tell him that you won't be talked to like that or he will lose you all together.
I'm all for communication, so communicate that him telling you that you are childish and overdramatic is insulting and disrespectful and he needs to pull his head out of his arse...
Good Luck!! xx
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