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writes:I am starting to wonder if I am in love with my boyfriend or I am in love with all the sweet things he has done for me when we first started dating. We have been going out for 2 years and we are very serious about each other. For the 2 year anniversary, I decided I will prepare a scrapbook that journal all the sweet things between us with pictures that I took of him. I enjoy making the scrapbook very much. In real life, me and my boyfriend gets along just fine. Sometimes I feel he's boring and that his gaming is making me feel I'm not that important to him anymore. Everytime I feel this way, I'll work on my scrapbook to re-inform me I'm deeply in love with him. It leads me wondering how can a relationship last a lifetime if I'm already feeling my boyfriend is not as exciting as before.
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reader, Basschick  +, writes (10 August 2007):
 Because you may be more incompatible than you realize and you have just been swept up in the initial attention he gave you at the beginning. I fell for my first husband this way. He opened doors for me, he took me to my favorite place to eat, he ordered for me, helped me with my coat, pulled out my chair. I felt like a queen when I was with him!! Not like any of the other guys I had dated who were content with a night on the couch, watching football with nothing more to offer me than a handful of stale nuts and a six-pack. As we got to know each other, I discovered that my husband was very thoughtful, buying me little gifts, or cards and always celebrating my birthday in an elaborate, well-thought out way. But the rest of our life together did not measure up and he was indeed a little boring. It took me years to strike out on my own because the security and the attention are hard to find in most relationships, but we frequently ran out things to say to each other and I ended up filling the space with my own chatter which isn't very stimulating over the long haul. But he rarely had anything he felt like sharing or talking about so it didn't take long to lose our intimate connection. Also the sex was pretty hum-drum as well and I lost interest within 3 years. I know there's probably a wonderful sedentary gal out there somewhere who would've loved my husband to death, but unfortunately, it was not my cup of tea, though I do miss the flowers on my birthday like clockwork every year.... I wish you the best sweetie!
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reader, MeowMix86  +, writes (10 August 2007):
 Hello!
You know...its sad to say but in the very beginning of every relationship, it seems like everything you two do together is fireworks. Being with him is like a romanctic movie and you are the stars. But the truth is, things can't always be that way. If relationships were always full of I love yous and you are my everythings then we wouldn't appreciated them as much because they would become normal and even casual!
Men are always very sweet in the beginning because they want to show you how much you mean to them. So they do things like write songs, call just to say I love you and bring flowers and soup when you are sick. After awhile, they feel you know that they love you...so all the romantics slow down a bit. It doesn't mean he lost interest, it means he is comfortable. And that is a good thing. Its time for you to get comfortable too. If you really feel like the passion is dying a bit...try somthing new. If he likes playing video games, take him to an arcade...there are some great games you and him could enjoy and he'll think your totally cool because guys love girls who play video games. Do somthing neither of you has done before...and you may see the spark again. Its up to you to instigate is because more likely than not, he hasn't a clue. And if afterwards you still feel bored, try spending time on somthing you want to do...somthing that is for your benefit. Relationships are always going to be fireworks...hell even fireworks don't happen everyday...but thats what makes them so special!
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