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writes:I met a guy 9 months back. I didn't like him that time but slowly started liking him. He always said he loved me, did beautiful things for me which no one ever did. Dunno when I started liking him. Now he behaves differently. He doesn't care for me as much as he did before. I feel neglected, I gave myself completely to him now although he expresses himself occassionaly saying he loves me I sometimes feel he will leave me. There is family pressure, we are from different backrounds. I broke up with him a month back, still in a dilemma if I did the right thing... Twist in the story is sometimes I feel he was on the rebound for me as my last relationship failed bad and I still remember him sometimes.. too confused to judge what's what..
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reader, anonymous, writes (20 March 2008): i know exactly how you feel i went ans still am in the same circumstance my fiancee now was just a rebound for me, i never really liked him but now i have grown to love him, and now he doesnt even appreciate anything. Its true maybe you just went to fast, trying to forget problems you jumped in more.I know i did. I regret it everyday. but what can i do thats just they way it happend.
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reader, korculan queen  +, writes (16 March 2008):
after 9 months with you he is feeling comfortable with you no doubt and may be taking you for granted. That is why I stress so much that the dating phase should go as long as you can as this is where the magic in the relationship is and people tend to want to skip this phase and rush into something quickly and then wonder where the magic is gone. My guess though too if you are feeling this way he has picked up on this and is feeling emotionally withdrawn to you. Think about it if he came to you and told you all the things that were wrong about your relationship you would feel pretty rotten and insecure and doubt your ability to please your partner. Why not tell him all the wonderful things he does for you and pamper him. Yes try giving him a foot massage or neck massage. Get dressed up like you are going out on the town and cook a nice meal or order in and candles and all and sit at the table and bring back the magic. Relationships get stale if both parties give up trying to keep the magic alive.
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reader, Gena Bullock +, writes (14 March 2008):
 could be he's the type who likes to make girls feel special when they're down and finally moves on to the next one after he thinks he has done his GOOD DEED for you.
You need to talk to him and feel this out. Good luck.
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