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writes:I started dating this muslim boy a couple months ago we made it official 3 months ago and he's been distant lately. I'm Mexican and he's arab and I think he might have distant himself because I didn't give him sex. He's 21 and I'm 19. He's been busy with the new family business they opened , but before he would text me and now he's busy with work sometimes I don't hear from him at all. His family owns two hookah lounges he's always around girls, but I trusted him until now that he's been distant. Maybe he met someone new. What do I do? I really like him but I feel hopeless. He's all about excuses and it just hurts. They warned me about muslim men. At first it didn't bother me when he said certain things , I stuck with him through Ramadan , I don't deserve this, any suggestions I want him do I still try. It's not like he's a horrible person when I'm with him no one texts or calls just his family and he's phones empty. But i haven't seem him for a while and he's berly been texting me. Sometimes he's amazing and other times distant :( I just don't know
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reader, anonymous, writes (10 August 2014): Nothing is confusing regarding your dillema. He doesnt care for u as much as you care for him. If he does, he will meet your expectations voluntarily. Meaning he will never make you wait. Hot and cold treatment means his a philanderer. So many girls at the side.
A guy who sincerely loves you will never have the heart to make you feel second best, he would be busy adoring you everyday. He will call you voluntarily. Not just when its convinient for him. To me he just msg you, call or have time for you when the other girl is not around. Sneaky.You just can tell when a guy is hiding something so easily. Hot n cold treatment is a sure sign. So its crystal clear. Thats why on my end i dont ask what is obvious. So never get confused. Its not confusing at all.
You will just hurt yourself if you will continue believing you are on the same page with him.When clearly his not. His 21 n your 19. You are both so young. When i was 21 i met my first serious bf.i never experienced those mind playing games. He was 24. I never had a relationship with someone who showed me a confusing attention. To me, the guy who gives confusing signals is just friendly or flirty. No less no more. So why would i care. I deserve to be treatef like a queen. First class. You should say that to yourself too. I think all women should. Why so you wont stress yourself.its good to love someone you know who will be able to love you like you do for the. It make you both happy, contented and thankful to god.
Regardless of his religion, i believe when real love hits you, it will change you. Love changes everything. If its not, then thats not love. My advice, dont waste time.its too stressful to overthink, hoping, praying, wishing for someone you know can never commit.
Think wisely. Its ok to love like madly in love with someone you know worthy. Worthy not because of what he have but because you know his for keeps. I bet if you give him a hard time you wont hear anything from him anymore.
Well its all up to you. But as for me, my advice is to just keep things friendly. Date other people. Have fun, your still young and always pray.
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reader, CindyCares  +, writes (10 August 2014):
 That's an easy one. If he blows hot and cold, then, Muslim or Christian or any religion,... then he must be just 50% into you. If someone is interested , he will be available and consistent. Not smothering or clingy, but present.
It sounds a case of out of sight out of mind. When you get to see him, you do awaken some interest in him, either sexual or of other nature. When you aren't, he puts his thoughts and energy into other stuff . Not necessarily other girls ( although,that's also possible of course ). Just.. stuff, because you aren't that important to him.
I think you are wasting your time. If after just 2 or 3 mobths he is already " distant ", he can't be that into you.
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