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writes:I know this is relationship advice, but this website gives me the best, most insightful advice!! I don't know what to do, i have a vitally important life decision to make. And i have to make it as my future starts in a month!! Ever since i was 10 i've been interested in editing films, recording them and writing screenplays.. it's just something i am absolutely passionate about! Well i've finished college now and the next stage would be university, or work if i'd rather.Well i have the opportunity of a lifetime to work in america for a year in the film/TV industry! Which is amazing, because i will be working in the pinnacle of it all. And at the same time i can get my degree online, because i really want a degree behind me, so it's best of both. Or if not, i can go to university here in england and get my degree, so when i finish maybe i will get a job after, but it's not definite.I'm just unsure which one is the best option to do, my parents and everyone else say working and studying abroad in the heart of where the film industry happens, is a life changing experience that will probably help me in achieving and getting my foot through the door. I mean my best friends go on about how i'm so lucky because i'm only young and so many people can only dream of having such opportunity!Of course i understand that, but then i do want to go to university in england because of the social aspect since it's apparently the most amazing years of your life! And i want to make a large crowd of friends, who then i can hang out with here and spend summer with.. I mean i wont have that in america would i? ...But then i know how incredible working and living in america will be! I want to take the opportunity of a lifetime that i've dreamed about since i was little! Just i'm scared, i'm scared of it going wrong and me not making any friends out there and hating it.. i'm scared that i'll be making the wrong decision!!What should i do? I can't figure this out, i just want advice from people who don't know me and wont be bias!!?
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reader, ThomasDrew  +, writes (5 August 2011):
the film industry is tough.... Getting your foot in the door...tougher....having an in and getting the oppurtunity to be involved where it happens can be the knock of a lifetime. Grab it and capture your dream...schools are everywhere and being afraid is natural. A new situation for me is fearful. It's the unknown and who isn't afraid of that. Maybe just me. How many people get to live there dream...whats that i sense....ahh envy.
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reader, idoneitagain  +, writes (5 August 2011):
Rather than thinking of this as an either/or decision, you can do both, as the previous poster has said. You can work for a year in the US, and then if you choose, you can come back to the uk and study at uni. We can never know where life will take us, and it is true that making one choice eliminates other choices for that moment, but all we can do is make the best choices we can at any given time, with the information we have at that time. We can't control how things will work out, whether our choices will work out well for us or not, but that doesn't matter because it isn't up to us. Just make the choice that seems right to you at this moment, and go with it. You can always make a different choice down the line as things progress, if it suits you.
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reader, Aunty Susie +, writes (5 August 2011):
 You could go to Uni in England, not make any friends and hate it. And forever regret not taking the opportunity of a life time. Or, you could go to America and live your dream, make fantastic life long friends, have an exciting career. You must do this! As scary as it might seem to you right now; I would be more scared of not doing it, realising I had made a mistake, and then living with regret. If doesn't work out, you can always come back home to your family, and go to Uni in England. Grab this amazing opportunity with both hands, and go for it. I am excited for you, and I don't even know you. Have a fabulous life. xxx
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reader, Orbiter +, writes (5 August 2011):
Also just to add that having a years work experience in America will really stand out to universities that you apply to and on your CV.
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reader, anonymous, writes (5 August 2011): Sometimes the biggest risk in life is not taking a risk!I would always take opportunity and if it flops...well you simply start over again. You can always have friends and family come and stay with you and plus make a whole new bunch of friends.Opportunity...dreams...experience...if you want it , go and get it...it may never knock again.Good luck :)spunky monkey
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reader, Orbiter +, writes (5 August 2011):
Well I agree with your friends and family that going to America to work in the tv/film industry would be a once in a lifetime experience, so if I were you I'd go for it.As for uni, assuming you're planning on coming back after the year is up - why not just defer or wait a year and then come back to England to do your degree? I didn't go to uni until I was 20 and there's been no problems at all with doing that.
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reader, Xx-Scorpio-xX +, writes (5 August 2011):
 I would definately choose America. I'm actually so jealous of you as I'm going to uni next month to do film production and i would love to go to America in the film industry! If you can still get your degree whilst being out there then thats an added bonus. If you go to America you will have the actual indistry expierence that would put you at an advantage that not many people would have to put on their C.V! I understand where you're coming from~ but would you rather have 3 years of social activities along with the possibilty of not focusing on work/getting a job or having a year of valuble expierence which many people would envy?:) If you don't go to America, you may regret it at a later date~ and i'm sure that you'll be able to make some friends out there! And to be honest, in your question it sounds as if you are a lot more passionate about going :)Good luck ^_^
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