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writes: Hello, I'm 20 and had some questions about doggy style. My boyfriend and I have been together for two years. I have never really wanted to pursue this position because there is not really any eye contact and feels more like a "get her done" position. For some reason though, I am suddenly extremely interested in pursuing and trying this position. I have read up on it though and there are some things I want to clear up/ get advice on. I heard that in this position that a woman gets air in her vagina and as a result ends up with the awkward sound that I'm sure you know what I'm talking about. Does that happen often and if that has happened to you how do you go about dealing with it when you are trying to be in the moment? Also, for me, I have never really gotten any physical pleasure from sex but more from foreplay. Because of the angle doggy style is, do women actually get a feeling from it since the notion is going in the opposite direction? Any information on this position at all would really help me. Thank you in advance to all the ladies and men.
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reader, lucky guy +, writes (8 June 2014):
My wife and I really really like this position. Regarding air in the vagina, yeah, sometimes it happens. Doesn't bother either of us. If I put it there, I certainly can't judge her for it! She find the angle and deep penetration to be really great. I love pleasing her so this is a win-win. As to the person who said it isn't intimate, we don't experience it as not intimate. Sometimes she'll move forward to be laying more prone and I'll do the same. We can't move as much or as fast, but we have so much skin to skin contact that we find it incredibly intimate and loving. Our legs touch, my belly and chest are against her back, I can wrap my arms around her and hold her close. I can reach her breasts with my hands in a way that I can't with missionary style. I can kiss the back of her neck. It is a great compliment to more up on our knees, going at it hard. Also if you have a tall bed or a table or something, try doggy style with her bent over the bed/table/whatever and him standing. If you can find something from the right height, that can be great fun. Experiment, love each other, enjoy each other.
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reader, So_Very_Confused +, writes (11 January 2012):
 yes it's not a romantic position but it's a good one.
and yes i prefer it for better sensation
as for Queefing... (that lovely sound you speak of) laugh it off!
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reader, anonymous, writes (10 January 2012): Yes, the air thing is true and it has happened to me so many times...I used to get embarrassed, but I got over it because we both know what it is now...what I didn't like the most was turning back over, not doing anything and it just comes out, and there is nothing you can do about it but laugh. Now actually doing it?.....awesome, well worth everything... but here's a couple ideas for you....why not try sideways with him coming into you from behind. You can also try laying on your stomach with your legs almost together and let him come in from behind with his legs strattling yours, then work your way up to doggie style...just a thought....
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reader, Crabman  +, writes (7 January 2012):
 stop over thinking things ,ITS SEX !relax and enjoy
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reader, person12345 +, writes (7 January 2012):
 Just have a go at it, can't know anything until you try it. No it's not very intimate, but sex doesn't always have to be romantic and lovey, it can be animalistic too. It does help him go a lot deeper, so make sure you're aroused first and have him go a little slow at first to make sure he doesn't bump your cervix.
As for queefing, sometimes it happens, sometimes it doesn't. If it does just start laughing. Don't bury yourself under the covers and apologize or act embarrassed, just laugh even if you're mortified and soon you'll start to just find it funny and silly and not worry about it. It's not a big deal and the sooner you learn to laugh about the weird noises, fluids, and movements that happen during sex, the better your sex life will be.
As for pleasurable, most women (75%) don't orgasm from intercourse, so you're definitely not abnormal. Doggie style can hit your g-spot more, but in general I wouldn't say it stimulates your clitoris more than other positions. I think most women have the best luck being on top for that, but who knows. Maybe doggie style will be what you find best. You can also have him easily "give you a hand" in doggie style.
Worst that happens is, you don't like it and switch positions, no big deal. But you should definitely give it a chance. Also trying new things gives you a rush of the hormone that you get when you're in the honeymoon phase/first falling in love, so that's always a good thing.
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reader, DoubleM +, writes (7 January 2012):
 To answer one part of your question from a man's point of view, yes, the position might afford better stimulation of the so-called G-spot, but I think it depends upon practice and knowledge. Took me a while to learn, but the trick is all about position and "angle of penetration." And for me and my mates, it did not always work to bring her the fantastic orgasm by itself. Then I think it depends on the couple. Sometimes, for "her," depending on the girl, it was apparently the greatest ever experienced during intercourse. My best advice: Girl arches back a little while male trusts downward from behind. Takes practice, because it's not as easy as it sounds.
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reader, anonymous, writes (7 January 2012): i recomend trying it dont worry about air tht doesnt really happen its my fav position tbh try it ! :)
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reader, YouWish +, writes (7 January 2012):
 You know, I understand how you feel about face to face intimacy, but I'll tell you something else. It's *really* intimate to be sexually adventurous, even if that means hanging from the rafters upside down while doing it reverse doggy style!
If you don't like it, you don't have to do it again! But you might have a blast trying new things! Think of the bedroom as your personal playground, where anything goes as long as it's fun for both of you!
Last but not least, most women don't have an orgasm through intercourse itself for many reasons. Adventuring with new positions and new frames of mind will open up a whole new, fun, AND intimate world for both of you!
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reader, Larissalover1  +, writes (7 January 2012):
 i find doggy style more pleasureing sometimes. it helps sometimes if you put your head down on a pillow. doggy style can even help him get deeper im told (read that in cosmo). i've only had the air problem once and it wasnt really noticable, but if it is just laugh it off :) hope that helped.
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reader, Tisha-1 +, writes (7 January 2012):
 I think you can spend a lot of time researching how to ride a bicycle, learning how to sit on the seat and balance and move your legs and read about what the sensation of moving feels like. But until you try it, you don't ever know what the experience is like.
Why not simply try it and see if you like it? Go with a sense of exploration and a sense of 'whee! this is FUN!' and just experience it.
You may have to adjust your back's angle and experiment with resting on your hands or your elbows. You can reach back with one hand and add additional stimulation to yourself or him. He can also reach around and add more stimulation for you as well.
As far as introducing air goes, I think that's basic geometry and you'll just have to try it and see if the angles are all okay or if there's a problem.
Changing his posture and yours can alter things so that it's not an issue.
You may feel more vulnerable, or it could make you feel sexier, who knows? Just give it a try and don't over-think it. You may love it, you may not care for it, you may decide it's fine every now and again to change things up.
Maybe try it with a light-hearted, humorous attitude the first time so you don't get thrown off stride if there's a technical glitch. In other words, smile and laugh!
I think it's worth a try. Good luck, have fun and be safe!
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reader, aunt honesty  +, writes (7 January 2012):
 On my experience I love doggy style, it has always been one of my favorites and i have never gotten air while doing it. It can touch some great areas so therefore you should give it a try. New things are always good to try so why not? Do it and see if you like it. Good luck.
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