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writes:For a while now my best-friend, call her Cee has been in a relationship with this guy, who's also mostly my friend too.I's been going on for two years, and it was the most ridiculous relationship ever, and Cee was complaining about him constantly, about how unromantic he was etc. etc.But now they've actually talked about it and all that carry on, and they're taking it to the next level, they've become like a real relationship.I just want to add here that I'm also in a relationship, and as well as being completely straight, I have absolutely no romantic feelings towards either my best-friend or her boyfriend.Anyway, Cee and I are very very close as friends, and we tell each-other a lot.Quite recently, as the two have been getting more sexual with each-other, she's been talking to me about what they do, asking for advice, and comparing to my relationship etc. etc.The really embarrassing thing is that sometimes I actually get turned on when she tells me about the stuff.It's not like I want to join in or anything, it's just like imagining it and thinking "shit that's pretty hot".Is this totally disgusting or okay? I'm kind of unnerved by it, and I feel like such a freak, and I can't talk to anyone about it. Reply to this Question
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reader, So_Very_Confused  +, writes (19 May 2014):
 Totally NOT disgusting.
Very normal.
and yeah I suggest that if you feel the need to express yourself and work these feeling through that you get a journal and keep it private.
There is nothing disgusting or abnormal or freaky about having sexual feelings that are NOT about the person... and there is nothing wrong with keeping those thoughts private.
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reader, Honeypie +, writes (19 May 2014):
 It's normal. Pretty typical bodily response.
This is why PORN is such a huge industry. Think about it. People FAKING it for money and viewers get turned on whether they LIKE what they see or not.
Now, personally, I'd keep it to myself - but DO NOT feel bad about it. If you don't like it, then try not to get into conversations that makes you feel uncomfortable.
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reader, YouWish +, writes (18 May 2014):
 You're not a freak. All of us have our private fantasies. No, you can't talk to anyone about it, nor should you. Enjoy them as your private secret. Sexual discussions, like erotic books or sexual movies, tend to turn many people on, and it's perfectly normal.
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