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writes:guys i neeed help pleaaaase..my girlfriend just told me a guy in her class kissed her while they were on a break.but she didnt kiss him back she said it all happened in 1 second!! they were talkin and he just kissed her :S i dont know what to do. i didnt even shout at her i just said ' okay' and left her. she was following me and sayin sorry but i just kept going and now she keeps texting me but i turned my fone off.i dont know what do... Should I forgive her or what? I love this girl but I'm hurt now, it's not easy.the fact that she had a liplocked kiss aint easy to swallow im confused nowhelppppthnx a lot
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reader, anonymous, writes (6 September 2010): I know it's not a nice thing to think about.... But she really didn't do anything wrong.
She didn't plan it, she didn't take part in it and she didn't want it. She didn't do anything to forgive.
I know that it would be such a horrible feeling for you, but I bet it feels even worse for her right now. Not only did some guy suddenly plant one on her out of nowhere and make things really akward for her, but also he's caused a rift between her and her boyfriend.
She probably really hurting too. If you believe her then you need to call her and apologise... and thank her for being honest with you instead of just pretending it never happened.
I agree with Cindy Cares too. If you don't trust her, then perhaps you should end things with her.
If you do believe her and make up with her, then maybe you could ask her very nicely to text this guy and let him know nicely how little she appreciated it and please not to do it again.
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reader, chigirl  +, writes (6 September 2010):
 Hello? He kissed her?? And you are mad at her? Why are you mad at her, she didn't do anything! What you should have done was be mad at the guy who offended her by kissing her, that is also called harassment. She was forced into a kiss, and maybe she needed your support because someone stole a kiss from her, and she was very uncomfortable? But you are not mad at the guy, but mad at her???
She didn't do anything, so you have no right to be mad at her. If you are a decent man then you should find this man who kissed her and let him know she is your girlfriend and he better never kiss her again. Then comfort your girlfriend. Don't sit and sulk in a corner, wondering if you should forgive her... Forgive her for what, she didn't do anything. You are the one who should apologize.
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reader, CottonCandy19  +, writes (6 September 2010):
I f she really loves you, she did what she wuz suppose to do. She told you, rather than lying to you because I think why does she bother telling if she's lying? I'm gonna have to agree with CindyCares, u shud call her and forgive her. Why wud u be in a relationship wif someone u dun trust?
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reader, CindyCares  +, writes (6 September 2010):
 If you trust her, this is what you do . You assume she told you the truth- you believe that she did not kiss the guy back and that the whole thing lasted less than one second, so that basically somebody stole her a kiss and that's no big deal.
Then you call her and apologize profusely for having acted so immature and overemotional.
If you don't trust her ...well, if you don't trust her I guess you should not even date her.
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reader, Alvy  +, writes (6 September 2010):
I know what you mean, the idea of another guy being that close to your girlfriend, but if she is telling you the truth and she didn't kiss him back well then it is really is not her fault at all and you should be going after the guy who kissed her out of nowhere, be mad at him, but yes forgive her if you know she didn't initiate the kiss, good luck, it will work out.
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