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writes:Me and my partner got together shortly after he broke up with his ex I was the main Reason I suppose and the fact he was sick of her leaving every 5 seconds and her using there child to get at him I try my best to put my feelings aside when it comes to seeing his ex so he can see his child but its hard because shes so nasty has no Dignity what so ever and is doing everything in her power to anger the both of us Some days Its like Wall world 2 between us all but its because when ever We agree on something about there child she will go back on her word and prolonging us from seeing his daughter What can I do In order To support him And yet not feel threatened by her , part of the reason I go with him to pick her up is because I don't trust his ex but also to show she don't scare me anymore , I'm sick to death of her saying what I can and cant do with there child , I know shes not mine but I'm not going to treat her any different to any other kid I come across . Its not fair on her for me to do that what am I meant to do ?
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reader, dirtball  +, writes (25 October 2010):
 Really, the problem lies in your BF. He needs to assert himself with her and take a stand. He can't let her control him anymore.
How can he do this?
The most important thing he can do in regard to his child is fight for custody or at a minimum get some sort of arrangement set in writing. That way there can be legal recourse if she doesn't comply, and it is more difficult to change without the consent of both parties.
The thing is, this is something that he has to do. You can't do it, and you nagging him about this will just drive a wedge between you both.
She will always be in his life because they share a child. Do you think you can deal with that?
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