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*welsurfin
writes:ok my girlfriend and i were together for 2 years. in beginning of october my vey close friend died in a car accident, later that month she says she want to take a break. that whole month she kept telling me to make her love her..like i knew what it would take? and she said she wants space and time. so we try being friends..doesnt work, we fight one night and she says its over for good. for next couple months she randomly texts me here and there to say hi or i miss you but still not ready. then in beginning of feb we get bck together. then last week says were not working and she needs time and space. we tkl for a while and i tell her i knew the truth that she sucked some guy off 1 1/2 weeks after we broke up last time and that maybe i had a problem with her hanging out with another guy friend..not same guy..while we were going out..worrying she was cheating on me bc i knew she lied to me already. then i freaked out..texting her friends trying to get advice to get her bck..she finds out and flips out and found out i was gona surprise her one night and flipped out. she said she wants time and space so i need to give it to her.i told her i was jsut tlkin to them all bc i worry bout her..previous depression problems. so now she says in a coupe months we can start tlking again and then start hanging as friends again and then try to work on a relationship..so i accept..with no other choice lol..but im just worried shell fall in love with someone else. idk what to do..i guess just wait and hope for best.i wana text her but i need to give her this space she needs..any sugestions or advice for me..how to deal? how long to wait? anything would help..any kind of reply..even just thoughts on the subject..thnx all
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reader, chrissy32789 +, writes (20 March 2007):
 swelsurfin,
I am glad that everything has worked out between you two, i hope for the best to the both of you and if you need any help just let me know and i will try to help you the best as i can....i will leave you alone for now so you and your girl can work it all out good luck
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reader, swelsurfin +, writes (19 March 2007):
swelsurfin is verified as being by the original poster of the questionthank you for your help. yesterday morning she texted me, last night we hung out and now we're going back out lol. that friend of hers fuked her over and was just using my girl to fill in bc him and his ex we trying to make thigns work and it wasnt happening. so now shes like when i break up with you its just to see your wht i reli want...she goes dont take me seriously lol. so anyway im happy now that im with her. hoping it all goes well for now on. thnx again
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reader, chrissy32789 +, writes (18 March 2007):
i am hoping for the best for you two to, but just keep in mind if it dont work be strong and move on, not everything in this world works out the way you want it to, but good luck and let me know how it goes....
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reader, chrissy32789 +, writes (18 March 2007):
i am hoping for the best for you two to, but just keep in mind if it dont work be strong and move on, not everything in this world works out the way you want it to, but good luck and let me know how it goes....
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reader, swelsurfin +, writes (17 March 2007):
swelsurfin is verified as being by the original poster of the questionthank you...for the concern of my friend and relpying. yea i talk to her manager too at work lol..i know i shouldnt but we still do a little bc she wants us to work out too and she said give it a little bit of time like 10-14 days and text her asking her what up. she wants me to make sure that she knows i still care about her and wanna make sure shes ok. this is really difficult but im hoping for the best.
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reader, chrissy32789 +, writes (17 March 2007):
Dear swelsurfin,
I am sorry to hear about your friend but now its time to take care of your problem....The one part where she is texting you saying she misses you but still not ready it sounds like she is checking up on you and playing head games with you, like she dont want you and she dont want you with other girls....Never text her friends to find out questions because it will always get back to her if you want to know how she is doing text her cause friends get things twisted, and it can be a simple question and then they will trun it into a big problem! If she falls in love with someone else you will just have to except it and when your ready you need to move on to, two years is a long time to give up on someone but its possible to do, (trust me i was with a guy 3 yrs and it took me a yr to move on and now i am getting married in may if i can do it so can you) sometimes its hard cause they will put you in a trap tell you that they need space so you dont contact her in any way and then she will put it on you well if you cared about me you would have contacted me, so the best thing to do is give it a little while like 2 wks and just send her a text mess. and just say i know you want your space but i just want to make sure you are doing alright, or you can just wait for her i really dont know how this girl is but you do so its your call. well i hope i helped atleast a little
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