| A
age
36-40,
*
writes: I need help understanding what this guy is thinking. I just started working at this gym and I am very attracted to one of my co workers who is a trainer. The first day we introduced ourselves to each other we were on the computer and he requested me on Facebook. That day I went home and found him on Facebook so we were chatting and flirting for a bit and then he asked for my cellphone number, I told him my cellphone isn't working but I gave him the number anyways for when it works. He wanted to see me the very next day but I played hard to get so I told him wednesday and he said okay. We didn't set a time or date but I thought we would message each other on Facebook later that week. Then Tuesday came and didn't hear from him so I thought our plans for Wednesday were cancelled. Then I saw him Thursday at work and he asked me "So when are we hanging out?" I tols him I thougth we had plans on Wednesday and he said well it's just hard to make plans without you having a cellphone. I think that's just an excuse because if he really wanted to we could've sat a time and date and met somewhere just like I did with this other guys a couple times. I guess he's just not that into me. I've heard he's kind of a player also but i'm not gonna judge him because of some gossip I've heard. Anyways, today at work he told me he was SO tired because he only got 2 hours of sleep last night, and i said "yes me too" and he said "Oh!! what were YOU doing last night??" and I said "Nothing just couldn't sleep", but then when I saked him "What were YOU doing??" and he said "don't worry about it" but then he told me he was just hanging with his friends all night. My question is: How come he acts like it's okay for him to ask me what I was doing?? and when I ask him he acts like i'm being noisy??? What do you think he's thinking??? I would love to hear a guy's opinion as well.
View related questions:
at work, co-worker, facebook, flirt, player Reply to this Question
Share |
Fancy yourself as an agony aunt? Add your answer to this question! A
reader, anonymous, writes (4 September 2009): He told her he was hanging out with friends. Doesn't sound like he was being a dick at all.
A
reader, anonymous, writes (4 September 2009): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionThank you guys!! Thsnk you q1605 I sent you an e-mail haha. Any more male opinions?? I would appreciate it.
...............................
A
reader, anonymous, writes (4 September 2009): Woah woah woah. I don't understand. The way you described his reply to you didn't sound accusative at all, in any way. Maybe you left something out but by the sounds of it, you're being a little sensitive.
Also, when you didn't hear from his Tuesday, you very well could have messaged him to confirm. There's no reason it should be all up to him to initiate things. If you want him to act like he's into you, then you have to act like yyou're into him as well! Especially since your cell phone is broken.
I think you should get rid of the idea that women just have to sit around and wait for men to chase them. We have to initiate, call, plan, "chase," want, make moves, just as much as men do. You cannot expect him to put up with that or be ok with it.
And i'm sorry, but to say that you're playing hard to get by telling him a different day than what he wanted, is a bit off. All that is is complicating things for him and pointlessly making things a little more difficult. He wanted to see you the next day and there was no harm in that. He was brave enough to ask at the risk of seeming clingy or needy. You probably made him feel like a fool or a little embarrassed and that is probably why he didn't do a followup contact to set the plan straight. Work WITH him. Not against him in hopes of seeming more insteresting.
~Sy.
...............................
|
