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writes:Hello! I posted a question yesterday evening, but only recieved one response. And, well to be quite honest it didn't really answer my problem. So I'm reposting in hopes that someone can help out. Here is the question in it's original form."My boyfriend says that he doesn't like oral sex because it hurts. Mostly just the head of the penis. I thought at first that he was telling me it hurts specifically when I do it but apparently he's always been this way and it's not me. I'm wondering two things here. One is why would it be painful for him? Is it a sign of some sort of health issue? Two, I love doing it, so it's disappointing that I can't. I want to please him in other ways besides just sex. It makes me feel good to make him feel good and it's something I was always told I was good at. In this situation, I can't do it. So what else can I do in place of it? He will go down on me forever if he could and I want to be able to return the favor in some way or another"I'm going to add to this, to say that he IS circumsized. Also, I've searched on google for any health information related to pain during oral sex and found absolutely noting! I guess he's not too concerned about it if he's lived with it for so long, but it just doesn't seem normal to me. Help?
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reader, anonymous, writes (27 March 2009): Thanks everyone! Im the original poster of this question,thank you for the responses.Somebody mentioned that he may be fibbing.Im wondering if maybe you are right?He sure has no problem during sex! He actually does it kind of hard at times,so it is a little strange that only oral stimulation would cause pain.And the one (and only) time that I went down on him,he said that it was amazing,and he didnt seem to be in pain at that time.The next time I tried he said no,and I assumed it was because he didnt want to risk getting off too soon,because he does have concerns about that.Im not sure what to make of it,but now im wondering why he would say it hurts if it really doesnt? He only mentioned yesterday that he doesnt like it because it hurts.
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reader, zyto  +, writes (26 March 2009):
 hello darling im a man and cant work it out if it hurts grting head then it must hurt when you have sex if not it must be something else all i can think off is if he will go down on you fore a long time ya must be a hot girl so all i can think of is ethier hes woried about his size or shape or hygeine or you never know he may have been abused as a kid and it brings back bad feelings talk to him mabey show him this and see hes reaction love zyto
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reader, anonymous, writes (26 March 2009): My guess is that he's had one or two bad experiences in the past. If in a previous encounter teeth came into contact with the head I can fully understand that it might have been painful, and he imagines it's always going to be that way. Try to re-educate him.
Let him know that your teeth are well out of the way when performing this manoeuvre and that he should at least let you give it a try. Spit on the head - plenty of it for lube - and use your hands up and down the shaft as well. Go gently - there's nothing quite as sensitive on a man as his balls and his 'helmet'.
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reader, anonymous, writes (26 March 2009): hmmm thats what i like about lego, there are only so many ways the bits can fit together.
So choices - Mouth, Full sex, Ass, hands, feet are probably the main ways....there are others, but i assume you dont have a false eye or anything?
so what to do!
First some questions - when its sore - does it happen when using hands or when having full sex? if it happens with hands does it happen when he does it? Is the head very red? what sort of pain is it - a dull throb or stinging? possibly a health issue if happens under any circumstances - e.g. squeezed? does it smell funny? any odd discharge (apart from the obvious)
- it could be he is afraid of you biting it off? or not able to make him cum. - If you can use your hands, maybe get to the point of just before climaxing and then just lick ? or kiss and see if different?
- 100 points for looking on the web - you will be surprised as to how many people don't.
Star.x.
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reader, Mr Me +, writes (26 March 2009):
 Honestly, I would have him go to an internist and have them check it out. It shouldn't hurt unless
a) he has an infection
b) he overly masturbates/finishes (it can start hurting after multiple times)
c) he has really dry skin and that includes his penis and it's cracked/dried out
Those are the only things I can think of with my lack of a medical degree. But I would get him to an internist and they should be able to diagnose him better.
I highly doubt this is an "only during oral" kind of thing since there's more pressure placed on the tip while having intercourse.
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