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writes:Im 20, a virgin, I've never had a boyfriend, I'm quite inexperienced with guys, I have only dated 2 in the past. So I met this guy at my uni, we both live near campus. We had been talking for a while on WhatsApp, flirting, getting to know each other etc. He asked to see me and because our houses are 10-15 minutes away from each other, it had snowed and was extremely cold so I just went over to his (he came to pick me up from mine). I was at his place for a few hours on Wednesday, we talked a lot, conversation flowed very well, he seemed very interested and was asking me many questions and I was also doing the same, he was teasing me and flirting with me and messing around, we watched a couple movies and we ended up kissing a few times. Nothing else happened, but the kisses were very long. And we were just cuddling and watching tv and he didn't make any other moves.He then dropped me back to my house and things just haven't been the same. (it is now Sunday)I've been talking to him the same way, but it seems like I'm the one making the effort to talk and hold a conversation.Before, he would reply to me within minutes, now he will ignore me for nearly 3-4 hours, maybe even longer, the answers he gives are rather short, sometimes he will talk more but that's rare. At first I assumed he was busy but WhatsApp tells you when the person is online and when they were last online, and I have noticed he has been online multiple times and hasn't bothered to reply until hours later.I mentioned meeting up again and he seemed to be up for it, but we didn't plan a day to meet up, he has work every other day which is close to his mothers house so he's always back and forth from his house to his uni house.I really don't get what has changed? It's too soon to mention that he has changed because we've only met up once, but if he kissed me and the date went well, whats the problem?Also, he knows I'm a virgin, he knew I was one before we even met up, so I don't think it's that? We literally discussed everything and he said that doesn't bother him at all as it's my choice. I was able to find out some stuff about him, we added each other on facebook during the time and I saw that he knew one of my friends from back home, when I asked her what he's like she said he's always been a nice guy but has been hurt badly by his ex-girlfriend in the past. So there wasn't anything bad about him but I'm confused. I don't understand what's going on, I don't really get why he's always ignoring me and taking ages to reply back, I mean, surely if a guy is interested in a girl he would talk to her whenever he can, so if he isn't interested, why kiss me?
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reader, anonymous, writes (27 January 2013): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionHey janniepeg, I don't think that is the case because him and his ex-girlfriend have been broken up for over one year.
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reader, janniepeg  +, writes (27 January 2013):
 He's interested in testing the waters and in making out. Then he decided he is not ready for another relationship, probably as your friend had said he had been hurt badly. Kissing felt good until the painful images of his ex came flooding in. That's the point when he decided it's not a good idea to jump into another relationship.
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