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writes:i recently found out that the guy I've been seeing for about 3 months now was flirting/chatting up a bunch of girls (including 2 of my friends) up until about a month ago. i confronted him about it and he seemed really remorseful; i believed him when he said he had already stopped talking to them and i had all his attention... so i chose to let it go. however, we're still not officially in a relationship.while all this was happening i confided in my closest friends and they all pretty much said the same thing: that i shouldn't take him seriously and it may all be an act, that i should give myself space from him and that he's not good enough for me. but i've come to really like this guy and it's so much easier said than done to slowly let go of someone you care about... and it doesnt help that my heart disagrees with them. we've become especially close over the last month... even before i found out about his indiscretions i noticed he became more caring and attentive at about the same time he said he stopped talking to those other girls. there are also some things my friends dunno about... like how we're practically living together (temporary arrangement) and how i lost my virginity to him right before i made the discovery (probably not the wisest decision but i cant say i regret it).However, a part of me worries that my friends maybe right and i'm just blinded by my feelings for him (and also reluctant to let go because i'm trying to convince myself he was worthy of my virginity.. if that makes any sense :/).What do you think?
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reader, janniepeg  +, writes (28 January 2013):
 How could he be so wrong if you were never official to begin with? You lost your virginity to him when you were not too sure where you stood. Right now he seems to want to go towards the direction of a relationship. Why don't you give him a chance to see if you can work it out? Tell him what you expect of him and what you are looking for. Let time decide if you are good for each other.
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