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writes:Hey I'm 16 and I could really use some advice. My boyfriend, age 15, is planning on joining the Army when he turns 16 next month and the thought of losing him is unbeariable, even though we've only been together 2 weeks. He tells me he won't get hurt but I'm still really worried. I know he can't actually join the main Army till he's 18 but I'm still very concerned and very scared. Am I just being paranoid? The other problem I have is that every time he mentions the Army or joing it, I burst in to tears because I don't want him to go. I've spoken to him about my worries but it's no use; he has his heart set on the Army. If he does go I'm going to be worried 24/7 and I won't be able to sleep, knowing that he could be lying dead somewhere. Please help me. Thanks in advance. Reply to this Question
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reader, SwimGirl26380 +, writes (12 July 2006):
 I think that you must let him do what his heart wants him to do. I know it must feel horrible to let go of someone you love so much, but remember this: "If you let something go and it comes back to you, then it is yours." You have to let him be who he is or he may regret you for "making" him stay and not follow his dreams. Also, you should be proud of him for choosing to protect our country. Let him know that and talk to him often. Also, don't be afraid to follow your own heart! Do what you enjoy doing!!! Then, if you two meet up again later down the road, you'll know it was meant to be!!!
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reader, Miss Bennet +, writes (12 July 2006):
It can be so difficult when we realise that our partner has a very different outlook in life, especially when we feel that their outlook could be harmful to the ones we care for. You need to think about where this relationship is going and what you feel you can handle in terms of your future. If you ask your boy not to go and he didn't do you think he would be happy? Or would he feel that he hadn't fulfilled what he wanted in life? How would you feel if he asked you not to do something? And if you don't ask him to stay do you feel that you can wait for him? If he went would it be so detrimental to your own life that perhaps you should finish it before then? Or do you strongly feel that you should be there for him? Only you can make these decisions, but make sure they are decisions and that you don't just stumble on and realise further down the line that you aren't happy.
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