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writes: Hi, I know this must be a common problem. There is a guy who I have known for 2 years, and well I like him immensely, and we have become a closer and bonded recently. The problem is he is involved with someone, but does not see a future with her. I know that's a no-go territory, but so far there has been no other guy who understands my personality, and who I get along really well and also find attractive. This may sound crude, but shall I wait and see what happens in hope Fate brings us together or just treat him as a good friend, and try to forget any prospects of being more than friends. Please help me out, my feelings are in turmoil! Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (12 July 2006): You know what. I wouldn't wait.
I'd be accepting offers of dinner and a movie from a single and available male. By waiting for an unavailable man who hasn't decided on what he wants; leaves you such a small room for a chance at happiness.
You could be waiting for something that isn't going to happen and that will just make you hurt, resent, an anger for who knows how long? There is no fulfillment in waiting.
Not all friendships and crushes should be explored, just enjoy what you have and seek what you want from someone who is more willing to be what you need.
He's out there.
Best of luck.
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reader, kellyO  +, writes (12 July 2006):
 Hi there,
I really dont think it is a good idea to wait around for him really. He is involved with someone else. Alot of my friends(both females and males) initially claimed they didnt see futures with their spouses when they started going out but they still got married so that isnt any gaurantee.Also, you dont know how he feels about you so even if it doesnt work out with her how are you sure that he would end up with you?
Perhaps you could consider your option and start dating. If at all he has feelings for you that might make him want to open up and express it before he looses you. But you shouldnt entirely do this just to get his attention so that you dont get dissappointed. Get dating so that you can get to meet an incredibly great guy, one who would be single and dedicated entirely to you alone .start by going out to parties, gatherings and social functions.
Take care dear and i wish you all the best.
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