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female
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22-25,
anonymous
writes:So there is this popular boy in one of my classes. He noticed who I was towards the end of the fall semester, but it wasn’t till the very beginning of the spring, did he actually acknowledge me. We started to follow each other on social media, and began to dm each other every now and then. Then we started to become closer friends and talk more. He was really good friends with one of my best friends at the time, so we all became good friends. We then started to talk every day in class, in the hall, before and after school in person, and would text, and FaceTime, and call, and oovoo with other friends for hours. I had developed a crush on him towards the time he started to notice me more, and I found out that he liked me back. So his friends and mine started getting involved and trying to hook us up, and get involved. He then found out my little crush on him, and we talked about it. At this time we would flirt a lot with each other. And one day we decided to go to the movies, we cuddled, and held hands, and hugged, and laughed and talked and everything. So I was pretty certain we had a thing. I kept hearing things from his friends and other people that were both good and bad, after everyone found out about “us” and what happened. I have heard so many different rumors from random people, or my friends, or his. Some say he really likes me, others say that he doesn’t, and he has a thing with another girl, and all that. I am not certain at all how he actually feels. I decided I was really sick of a lack of response from his about his feelings for me… and we decided to just be friends and see what happens. After that we would stay on the phone all hours and flirt and be amazing friends, and the next day was any other day. Except with more flirting. We went to the movies again shortly after and the same thing happen but more physical contact. During this whole thing, I had a feeling he liked or had “things” with a couple other girls, but I wasn’t sure, and just went along with it, and acted like I was the one for him. So now I found out those girls don’t like him back but I still don’t have a full answer from him on how he feels. A lot of people want us together, but others don’t because he is a player and no one wants to see me hurt. So I am not sure what I need to tell him, and how to deal with this because it is a lot!!I don’t know what to believe from anyone. They could be lies, or the truth, but we are both kind of confused now on our feelings for each other. So many people are just getting involved now and there are so many rumors about us and people trying to find out every detail. I still really like him, but idk if i should anymore.Can someone please tell me what to do with this crazy situation I’m in??!!!
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reader, anonymous, writes (2 May 2015): When you go to school with the same people you hangout with, they get into your business. They see you all day, and hear from you for the rest of it; and through social media everybody knows what everybody's doing. You have your nosy gossips who have no life of their own, who spend a lot of time spreading rumors about other people.
You have to learn to stop listening to gossip and rumors. You spend a lot of time on social media, so that's all you're going to get. He said, she said...they did this and they did that! You are getting along good as friends. He doesn't say how he feels about you, because he just might be a player and he still wants to be able to talk to the other girls.
Some parents don't allow their kids to date or have boyfriends or girlfriends before they're 16; so he can get-away with being "friends" with an "understanding" that he really likes you. He's just a 13 year-old kid, and at that age it's hard to make up your mind or really say how you feel. He told his friends and they told you he likes you. You both are thick as thieves when it comes to being friends; so let his actions prove how he feels until he can say how he feels. You also heard the other girls don't like him back, right?
As for gossip and rumors? As long as you spend a lot of time on social media and you're a student, you'll either hear them or be the topic. So you gotta be tough. I'm an adult, and people still get into my business. I've learned not to even let it bother me. If someone I know gets in my way or causes trouble, I deal with that person directly to find out what their problem is. To tell you the truth, 99.9% of the time; I simply shrug it off, depending on who it is and what was said. You know he likes you; so who cares about the people who says he doesn't?
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