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female
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36-40,
*rincessjasmine
writes:So how do u get people to like u? how do u get ppl to never talk badly about u? how do u not have drama in ur life? it is SO HARD for me to think before I speak, I have NO filter watsoever, i talked about how leos (being me and this girls bf) have a lot in common cuz of the leo thing, then i regret saying that in front of a jealous girlfriend. Why do I do this? And how do I stop? like im conscious of it but cant stop. Before I hang out with ppl that im not 'close with' I tell myself 'keep it lighthearted, friendly, and fun, listen attentively, ask lots of questions.' But i need to add 'do not comment on other ppls bfs or on anyone watsoever' SO MANY RULES TO THINK ABOUT, which wud make me cramp up wen speaking, if i think before i speak it looks awkward too, cuz they'd b waiting for a response or the convo wud die and im the type of person who brings topics up outa nowhere without thinking of em they just come out. Most of wat i say is goofy and lighthearted but i just dont wana come off as loud and obnoxious, it is SO HARD for me. I would love some help, ive asked qs about this before (in other instances but need some of ur experiences and what u find to be helpful.) Id lke to hear from ppl who are likeable and still energetic, social ppl. I think I'm a social person but i guess too social and might b in ur face. I often regret wat i said (at least one thing i said) so how do u just get ppl to like u?
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reader, anonymous, writes (23 July 2010): You don't always have to talk you know, sometimes it's better to just listen. I'm sure your the type of person that hates silences and needs to fill them, you don't, let other people talk, you learn a lot more that way.
Stop worrying so much too, I'm the king of putting my foot in my mouth people just get used to it and know there's nothing behind what I say I just don't have that barrier most people have when it comes to conversation. If there's a line I will always cross it and frankly I'm okay with that because the people who don;t make drama out of that are the people who are worth being my friends. It's actually a really good way of weeding out the idiots.
Oh and your not as bad as you think.
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