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writes:Never felt so confused in my life ..Where to begin ..I was with a guy for two years, absolutely head over heels we was very happy but our issues from past relationships soon cropped up, no excuse but this guy began messaging a lot of girls rumours of him going round town claiming he's single. After one year and a bit he split up with me, his grandad died and I could see he was highly depressed.. so I left him to it, and allowed myself to try move on.. met someone new didn't work out next week oh hi ex bf so I gave him a second chance. And we got back together i know that even though I got hurt in his mid state of depression i believed he genuinely didn't mean to push me away. Things were going great.. then yet again.. hiding phone. Dodgy night outs, cheating rumours.. everythig was going downhill .. then he booked a lads holidays to Benidorm and weirdly things perked up.. no hiding no dodgy nights out. Until he came back from Benidorm .. horrible person he made me so angry I hit him. And I knew something was not right anyway god awful rumours came out about him paying for a prozzy.. He ended me on my bday cause he wanted to go out with the lads and then I was away a week and the night I was due him he ended it.. split up. Cya bye arsehole. Taking no shit. FOUR MONTHS later..In this time frame I've become close to one of my exes friend of a friend. Super lovely guy would do anything for anyone.. he always did stuff for me.. splashed to much money on me so we had words I'm not that kind of girl I like to be even keep dates even and as much as every girl loves being spoilt.. I didn't want him for his money.. he has a mint personality we've been seeing each other three month.. soon as we maybe slightly getting serious..take a guess who pops back up in my life ..YES YOU GUSSED IT..my lovely ex that made two yeas relationship such hard work and cheated on me in Benidorm.Now what's hard is since this he's sent me flowers texts and probably as you can imagine all the stuff us girls want to believe "I've changed" "I'd never hurt you again" " I feel terrible "!etc Now the hardest part I still love him.. But I also now have feeling for this other fellaHas the ex finally realised caused he's had a hellish few months while I've been out picture massive family fued, he got out in hospital beaten up by three lads and has slight brain damage.Now he claimed he's in love he's sorry and the same oldSo Do I go to what broke me who I love or the new guy who has fallen for me completely.. ????super confused ..
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reader, aunt honesty  +, writes (22 January 2018):
 It is funny how he declares his love for you now when you are with someone else. Honestly the best thing for you to do is stay well clear off your ex. What do you love about him? cheating on you? Treating you bad? Paying for sex? I don't see why you could love this guy. Either way if you go back to him then don't be surprised to start hearing the rumors again, do you really want to go back to that? Me personally I would give this new guy a chance as he doesn't deserve to be dumped for a loser who will leave you the next minute another woman shows interest in him.
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reader, anonymous, writes (19 January 2018): Stay away from the braindamaged beat up guy.
He just lost his memory temporarily and thinks he's in love with you.
But you are easy bait.
As for his mate well you can go out
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reader, Honeypie  +, writes (19 January 2018):
 OK, OP
Did your mom ever tell you not to touch a hot stove or the oven door when it was on?
I bet she did.
And did you TOUCH it?
I bet you didn't. Because you KNEW and understood that you would get burned. And that getting burned hurts.
You have tried TWICE to make a relationship with this guy (your scuzzy ex) and he did plenty of questionable things while dating you. Now you call them rumors... but there is rarely smoke without a fire. And as it turned out - there was a fire - he cheated at least ONCE (that you know off, but probably more times than that).
People don't change over night.
Giving you flowers means absolute nothing. It's a "cheap" way to try and BUY your forgiveness. It's a DISTRACTION... LOOK pretty flowers! Girls like flowers!! Look at them!! (don't pay attention to the fact that I'm a shoddy BF!!)
No, your ex hasn't SUDDENLY realized that he did bad. He is not a changed man. He just knows that a man who seems FAR FAR better quality than him is courting you and that YOU are interested in someone else. Because you finally (I hope) have realized that you deserve more and better.
So, no leave that ex in the dust. THERE is no future there. Only more drama, hurt feelings and deceit. And probably some STD's....
Wish your ex well and CUT all contacts with him. You don't owe him squat.
Take your time with this new guy. And don't be so awed by him spending money on you that you wear blinders (like you did with the ex).
If the new guy is a good one, then GOOD, if he is not... move on but for GOODNESS sake leave that ex in the gutter where he belongs.
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