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female
age
26-29,
*allenangel95
writes:Ok so I'm kinda in a mess right now with one of my friends, we'll call him "bob". Bob and I have been friends for about two years and I care about him a lot even though he doesn't have the same feelings.We hung out a couple of days ago and everything seems fine except for we were supposed to "hook up." It was supposed to be a one or two time deal. The thing is others this other girl he likes, and thats the reason why he didn't want to took up with me. That day he said he was sorry, and that he cared about me only as a friend,and didn't want to ruin that.That day he tried to cheer me up and what not, it seemed to work and we had a great day even though we couldn't hook up.But today I talked to him about it, and messed up big time.I asked him for a hug and said he would give it to me after lunch, I decided then to talk to him about saturday and I how I felt like he led me on.(he said he would hook up with me for about 3 weeks) anyway he said that he would maybe hook up with me later, which I told him that what he said was a lie and he was just playing me. He i don't know. I was getting mad at this point, and 'bob' said i said no because I care about you as a friend and don't want to ruin that... I had with him,I said "I don't believe you." 'Bob' said I didn't need to believe him. The bell had rang and we walked togther to our classes and called after him and asked him for my hug and 'bob' looked at me and said, "I don't care about you remember?" And walked away without my hug. I don't know what to do, I said what I said because thats how I feel, there our days where I do believe he cares about me and that I'm special to him.(he said that couple times) But then sometimes he's such a jerk, and I hate him! I feel bad about what I said, and I don't want to lose him as a friend, that already happened once and I hated it... I'm sooo confused and hurt, what should I do about 'bob'? Reply to this Question
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reader, CindyCares  +, writes (9 March 2011):
 Leave him alone. When he says he does not want to hook up with you because he does not want to ruin your friendship, it may be just a line ( quite possible, it IS a very common line used by guys with girls that they are not much into ) or it may be absolutely the truth. But this does not change that : a) he wants you to be just his friend so all the touchy feely stuff is superfluous b ) you need to get a grip.
Aw come on - 13-15, and begging for " hook ups "? Pleading for a hug ? Sweating it that much ..and even if it goes your way , all you " win " is a one time deal, two at most ?? Are you really so desperate for attention ?.... Not even if you were a 70 y.o. spinster after a life of loneliness and neglect .
You can, and should , do better than this . You don't want to be pathetic, right ? Let them chase after you ! Let them beg YOU for a hug !
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