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*irefly1384
writes:Dear Cupid, I met this guy three weeks ago. We hit it off wonderfully. We went to the movies and had a great dinner. I spent the night cuddling at his house. We then spent the entire weekend together and even raided the swings at the park at midnight. Things quickly dwindled afterwards. I was always texting him first and he never had time for me during the week because of work and school. I understood that. Then he went away with a buddy for the weekend and did not text me until I text him. We met for lunch after that and he did not contact me for three days. I sent him a text and asked "Still alive?" He responded yeah. I'm not sure if I am just annoying him or what, so I asked point blank if he still wanted to hear from me. He snapped back "You do not want me to answer that and explained what a horrible weekend he had." I apologized and let everything else go. We joked around and I thought we had settled it. Now he isn't responding at all, but he still added me on facebook. I am very confused and I'm not sure where I stand or anything.
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reader, QuirkLady +, writes (27 September 2009):
 Meh, if he's not willing to put in the energy to contact you, he's not worth your time.
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reader, softtouchmale2003 +, writes (26 September 2009):
 Why is facebook the be all, end all of relationships?
Okay well this is very simple. You are the victim of New Relationship Energy or Ecstasy or whatever you want to call it.
Basically when you enter into a new relationship with someone, there's a sort of pseudo-emotional bonding that goes on. So the two of you have a lot of fun because you haven't had a chance to learn more about each other. So you glom onto whatever it is that the two of you find attractive in each other and that kick-starts the chemistry.
Now what may have happened, though its not clear, is that he may have thought you're not all that he thought you were and so its dialing down a bit. Meanwhile you want to spend more time with him, and he's trying to temper this a bit to figure it out if he wants to know you better or not.
That's all.
Sometimes that energy or ecstasy lasts a lifetime, sometimes only a short while.
Its part of the magic of the dating process. Some people never get to that stage in dating, and in fact progress beyond it. Some people just stay stuck in that stage, which is great.
I'd say back off a bit, be nice. Don't get too clingy. Make him wonder what you're up to now instead of the other way around.
If he's really attracted to you, you'll hear back from him again. If he's not that interested, well just keep playing the field.
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reader, Dannii689  +, writes (26 September 2009):
 I would just forget about him, he clearly isnt interested (sorry for being so blunt), but theres plenty more people out there for you to meet, so dont waste your time chasing him, get out there and meet someone who cares about you more than he does.
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