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writes:I have been dating my girlfriend for a year and 1/2. We live an hour apart. Generally spend weekends together and sometimes weeknights. There has been growing problems about her expressing her feelings for me. I know she loves me, I can see it in her eyes. She has difficulty saying anything like that to me. When she does, It is usually followed within a few days with lashing out at me for something silly and meaningless. She will then take back what she said earlier about loving me. I feel she has anger issues, she seems to get depressed at times. She lost a close family member 8 years ago. She says she was the most important influence on her life. She wont say much about her to me. I ask, get 1 word answers most times. When she tells me she misses her, she will cry, and get mad and lash out at me. There are so many things about our relationship that are great. I think these problems were there before I came along. She has said she has issues with expressing her feelings towards me. Why is anger the easiest one to express? I do love her. I want to be with her for the rest of my life. I believe she feels it also. I want to help her with this, but get pushed away when I try. She is the sweetest woman, but when she is lashing out at me, I cant believe the things the says. Alcohol is a factor in this also. I am sure I am not the only one to go through this. Looking for some advice.
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reader, INOH +, writes (2 March 2009):
INOH is verified as being by the original poster of the questionThanks for the input. We are taking a break, not my idea. In past relationships, when there was a break, I was gone. I thought that if we could not work things out together, how would being apart do any good. I would just move on and start with someone new. This is the first time I want things to work. I dont like living in limbo and not knowing what is going on.
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reader, INOH +, writes (2 March 2009):
INOH is verified as being by the original poster of the questionHow am I supposed to know what she feels and wants if she cant communicate them to me. It leaves me feeling not wanted or desired. This affects how I am to her. Not really how I feel
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