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writes:Greetings, im just going to be straight about this. Ok, so this is what happend: i've been with this person (girl) for almost a year now, infact we will be making a year next week friday!She bookd herself in a hotel for the weekend, so we could spend some time together. I was hoping she'd invite me ova by friday but she did'nt, ok so on friday night she askd if she could see me on saturday....i agreed and around 8pm on saturday afternoon she tells me she wont be able to see me!I dont like this at all because i would never do anythng like that to her! I think she's opening her legs for some other guy i don't feel like being with her anymore. I dnt even like dating but i made an exception for her.What do you guys think is going on??Do u smell a rat like i do or am i over reacting??! Plz help Reply to this Question
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reader, Brokenv  +, writes (24 February 2013):
Your question is a little unclear. She booked the hotel for you guys to spend the weekend together. That was was the plan? If that was the plan totally suspicious. She cancelled Friday to have some time to herself, which is ok but the second night. That is weird.
I would be talking to her about this. I would also slow down investing your time on her. I think you need to find out some answers to our questions. You need to write our questions before speaking with her You need to be together to listen and be open to her answers.
Good luck
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reader, anonymous, writes (24 February 2013): This only happened once? You're definitely over-reacting!! Why don't you do the normal thing and just ask her why she cancelled?!
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reader, anonymous, writes (24 February 2013): I don't think you're overreacting, but you are jumping to conclusions. There could be other reasons behind this. You say she booked a hotel so you could see each other. Does that mean you have a long-distance relationship? If that is the case, then I doubt she's cheating simply because she could have easily not told you she was visiting in the first place, and you'd have been none the wiser.If, however, she simply booked it as a romantic thing for you two (since your anniversary is coming up (congratulations by the way), then something is a bit fishy. Why book a hotel and then forbid you from visiting. It would also not make sense even if she's from far away (I'd assume she's on vacation), because why waste the room you paid for when you could at least have you visit her or something.You're right to be suspicious, but dumping her isn't the right move at this point. Ask her what's up, find out why you haven't been able to visit, and ignore the "advice" from someone who is clearly not here to help. She's already sided against you (and I bet she'd feel differently if you were the girl). Just talk to her and find out what's going on. If you're willing to break up at this point, what do you have to lose? Just don't attack her. Be calm, cool, and soft-spoken (the entire time, not just when you start talking). Good luck.
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