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writes: Dear Agony Aunt,I have been single for a year and recently met a guy. We went out once or twice and we ended up sleeping together on our second date! I dont regret it and he was really loving and held me all night long. When i left he said that we would see eachother the next weekend- it's now been 10 days and i've heard nothing!He was the one who ran after me in the first place- he doesn't seem like the heartless kind of guy. Should i 4get him or is it ok if i casually contact him again? Reply to this Question
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reader, pica +, writes (7 November 2006):
I wouldn't call him. If he likes you and thinks you're worth the effort, he'll make it. That does happen, believe me ;)
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reader, anonymous, writes (7 November 2006): This happened to me four years ago. I really fell for the guy. He also held me all night, i felt so lovely. I dropped him off at his house on the Sunday morning. He said he would phone me and he never did. The next week, me and my friend went out for a drink. I heart missed a beat as he walked in the pub. He spoke to my friend and completely blanked me. i just couldn't wait for the night to end. i went home and cried my eyes out. Then two weeks later we bumped into him again, he was all over me like a rash. His mistake. I blanked him. I've never felt better in my life. Walk away. There are plenty more fish in the sea. Bigger and better catches, believe me, i've got the man of my dreams now. I'm getting married next year, life is great. Just look on it as a lucky escape. Best of luck for the future.x
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reader, anonymous, writes (7 November 2006): Hi there, so you maybe slept with him a little too early in the game and it may have freaked him out...women often think when men don't call right away after an evening of great sex that it means he does not like them, but you say he held you all night long...he sounds to me like he must like you...chances are that he is just feeling very vulnerable after having sex with you and needs time to think about how he feels about having a deeper relationship with you....
Personally, I would wait for awhile longer before calling him up, but I would not wait meaning that you need to stop sitting by the phone if that is what you are doing and stay active and busy, and when he does finally call, and I bet he will DON'T say anyting like, "gee I thought you died" or ask him why it took so long to call you...just be your happy self and act busy even if you have been moping (you have I can tell) trust the bond that you have with him...if you don't hear from him in few more days, then I say you can call him and maybe invite him out for a stroll or a movie or something light, or just call to say you wanted to stay in touch or something like that, and just play it by ear and see how he reacts.
Good luck, we have all been there haven't we aunts?
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