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writes:I have been sleeping with my wife's sister for six years now, and I want to end it.I don't know how it came to this point. After my wife and I had our son, we were still adjusting to life as new parents. Postpartum, my wife was too tired for anything (including sex). We needed someone to help around the house because I work long hours. My wife asked her younger sister to join us.One night I came home late from work. My wife and I got into an argument, because at the end of a grueling day, I needed some release. I know she wasn't in the mood, so I was willing to settle for a quickie. I thought a blowjob would have been a reasonable compromise, but my wife wasn't having it. She threw a tissue box at me and told me to go jerk off in the bathroom. Then she went to sleep. I was so angry and ashamed. I honestly felt like walking out right then and there. Instead I went downstairs to the study to read.My sister-in-law must have heard our argument because a few minutes later she came by with drinks. She massaged my neck and in an unguarded moment I still regret, I started complaining about what had happened. Then we kissed and before I knew it, she was sucking me off. It felt great, being wanted, getting back at my stupid wife. In the morning, though, I felt awful and resolved not to let it happen again.Two weeks later we passed in the hallway and she handed me a letter. It was a wonderful dirty letter about how badly she wanted me, how she could barely control herself. Yeah, it played to my ego. That night she sucked me off on the couch. A few days later when my wife went shopping, we fucked in the kitchen. After that, every chance we were alone, we had sex. Eventually I spent hours thinking of ways to get my wife out of the house.Around that time I started noticing a nastier edge to my sister-in-law's behavior. She would make cutting remarks about my wife, sometimes to her face. She insisted we fuck in the master bedroom. She stole some of her sister's underwear too. She kept asking me to compare them sexually.As time went by, my wife started becoming interested in sex again. She thanked me for being understanding during our son's early months. I felt guilty, but said nothing about the affair. I thought I could put it behind me, especially when my sister-in-law moved out. Instead, I found myself taking "business trips" to sleep with her. I was scared that if I broke it off, she would tell my wife. And frankly, she was better in bed.Now, however, I want to end the affair. I don't want to wreck my marriage. I don't want to model irresponsible behavior for my son. I just want to put the whole thing behind me. I don't know how to start. I never meant for any of this to happen, but it feels too late for regrets.
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reader, Tooreal +, writes (5 June 2009):
 WOW. I'm not going to sit her and call you names, but seriously. A mistake is probably once or twice. But for six years is a little much. Instead of going to her sister you should have just told your wife how you were feeling. I've noticed that men seem to have a communication problem. Talking solves a lot. What makes it worse is that you whether you know it or not you might have feelings for her. And you will always keep it in your mind that "she is better than your wife". If you do tell her just let her you everything and don't lie. Keep in mind that this will ruin the relationship between you wife and her sister forever. And that she will not trust you around anyone ever again... Before i go.... man you sister is a slimy bitch!!!
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reader, anonymous, writes (3 June 2009): Your sis-in-law shows a lot of hatred and contempt for your marriage. My guess is she knows your wife has been banging other men behind your back from the start. That's why your wife is only too happy to look the other way. You should probably check whether your son is even yours.
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reader, anonymous, writes (3 June 2009): REVISED post - first one blocked
wow i can understand you making a mistake for even 6 months but man 6 yrs and you expect sympathy for *ucking this woman who invaded your home. both you and your sis in law have no morals. so what are you going to do now. you know you will not tell your wife in fact you will continue to hide it. so convenient to blame younger sis for leading you astray. shame you had no control over the situation, your sis in law just took advantage of you. what *bullshit crap. you know you wanted it, you got it, you enjoyed it and damn you will pay the price for it. 6 yrs of *ucking and now you come to your sense. who are you kidding. . maybe be man enough to admit your fault here, not only the *hore that came to help out. and yes she helped out. and helped herself to you as well. did you complain. you complied. you helped yourself to the forbidden *hore and you enjoyed her for 6 yrs. this person stole your wifes panties and asked you to compare who fared better in the sexual workout. nice one man!
You *ucking the SIL is one thing, you having sex her in your own bed is utter utter shameless. so plse do not blame her. have the balls to admit that you fucked up. you indulged with her and you cared nothing for your wife. you are despicable and i am sure you know it. so, you also took business trips to see your whore. did she twist your arm, did she blackmail you. plse account for your behaviour and stop blaming the tramp. so the tramp was better in bed. wow, i wonder why. she did not have post partum depression, she did not have a young child to take care of. so this SIL was obviously a better shag.
newsflash - you know you do not want to leave this *hore. you know you will never admit your affair to your wife. why? because you are a coward. selfish. self centred. what role model are you again to your boy? i hope while you were doing the dirty with the *hore your wife was sucking off another man's c*ck. babes what is good for you may just be better for her. remember this, women like to screw, they just don't want to be screwed over. REGRETS , WHAT REGRETS. YOU GOT 2 FOR THE PRICE OF ONE. . plse read your composition and see what a *astard you have been. sadly you will continue because you just cannot help yourself. don't bring your innocent boy into this equation. you do not care how he is brought up. you did not care for 6 yrs so why start now. do not use your boy as a scapegoat for your actions. your boy should be well left alone. at least be man enough to admit this is all for you. How did you cover this up for 6 long years. Your wife must have been blind. Or she was a too trusting fool. You allowed this person to berate your wife, you allowed your lover to ridicule your wife and put her down continuously. You allowed this person to violate your wife and your marriage. But then you also violated your home, every corner , the sofa, hallway, the kitchen. Your master bedroom, in fact every corner of your home you soiled. Every corner of your home you knowingly and purposefully contaminated. Do you have any respect for your wife. I know you prefer her sister but surely there must be something? You witnessed her being nasty to your wife, yet you did nothing. No wait, you actually did. You continued to have sex with her. What you have done to your home, your marriage your wife is the lowest of the low. You soiled your entire home, your tarnished the marriage , you violated your wife. It was all you. You the man who was supposed to protect her, be her faithful loyal spouse, be the father to her child and help her while she recovered by PPD. Yet you were the one destroying all her good, destryonig all her value. From what i read the fact that her sister made you decide who was better in bed, i am sure you and your sister in law had some good laughs about your wife while you both were indulging with each other. How does this now make you feel.
THE WAY FORWARD:
Do you honestly want to do right now. You CANNOT put the whole thing behind you, since you need to advise your wife of the on goings. You need to STOP now with your sis in law. This is the only way and to hell with the consequences. For 6 years you proved to be otherwise, now you need to stand up and defend what is yours. You need to be your wifes protector- from who, from her sister that is who. Her sister will not think twice to destroy your wife so you need to get to her first and tell her what happened. Or else the sis will, with all your sordid Porn start activities related , gory detail by glry details. And your SIL will not stop until she destroys. You haven’t seen her nasty side yet, it is still to come ans she will be on a war path. The old saying hell halt no fury like a woman scorned will be apt. So you need to confess first. You need to be man enough to admit your wrong doing. It starts and end with you. If not, then you wouldn’t have learn a thing. And please, do not go back for one last time. Because you know you then won’t stop. You have destroyed so much already do you want to destroy anymore. In life we all have choices. Either confess and take the punishment. But learn from this affair. Or do as you are doing. And continue destroying and violating. Then sadly your boy will definitely not see you as a fit role model. IS THIS WHAT YOU WANT. Please do not destroy this little boys life. You are very close to doing this if you continue with your SIL.
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reader, anonymous, writes (3 June 2009): Tell your wife what has happened and let her make the decision. I hope she doesn't forgive you because you have acted like a complete arsehole. She had just had a little boy, your little boy, and you couldn't keep it in your trousers. And her Sister sounds like a right classy lady too (NOT) - what an absolute bitch. You'll probably justify it to yourself that your wife wasn't sleeping with you, blah blah blah - lame excuses from a cowardly man sleeping with a bitch of a girl - second thoughts, you two sound really suited. I hope your wife finds another man with a huge cock who'll eventually end up being your little boy's surrogate Daddy!!!
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reader, anonymous, writes (3 June 2009): Well yes it is WAY too lat for regrets. Six years is actually a joke, I feel for your wife and she deserves someone who is better than you. How low can you go to get back at your wife by sleeping with her sister. She was having a tough time and all you wanted was a physical pleasure regarless of why your wife was feeling so stressed and low.
You cannot put the whole thing behind you, because it happened and your wife's sister is just as bad as you, you should have stopped this after the first time, but you continued. If you want to resolve anything(which frankly I think you won't) you need to tell your wife now. I however you were being selfish and greedy-how could you do that to the woman you love?
Your marriage I think has already been wrecked and I can't believe your wife hasn't found out with you being so blazen on the couch while she slept upstairs.
Your wife desrves happiness, something I believe you have probably deprived her of because her sister was a better shag.
What I've said is harsh, but you need to actually understand what you have comprimised for having this affair.
If you think you can regain something from your marriage-try it, but discover the reason why you had the affair. It seems simply you wanted sex and didn't think about your wife. I may be wrong, but you better get talking either way. Your wife holds all the answers you need, not us.
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