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writes:I am lucky: I have it all. I am tall, rich, good looking, athletic, well-educated. I, however, have a problem: I am attracted to married women. I am only really turned-on by being with a friend's (or co-worker's) wife. I love conquering the challenge, and doing something that's taboo. I admit, I have never had trouble getting to know women, single or married. But there's something about getting a married woman to sleep with me, which is different than meeting a girl in a bar, because there's so much more at stake. It’s a thrill. I also get a charge out of rolling out of bed and seeing her face: it's either deep regret or a passionate desire to meet up again. Either way, I am turned-on. Usually I don't hook up more than once because the challenge is gone, sometimes I do, but I most love seeing the husbands and/or couples professionally or socially afterwards, even years later, and then backslapping the husband, hopefully in front of the conquered wife. It's such a charge having a secret. My question is: do other guys get excited by doing this? How many times have you (men or women) slept with your friend’s spouse?
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reader, Miamine  +, writes (22 August 2010):
 Actually Nicegirl, you ring some bells there.. maybe this guy is a latent homosexual and too frightened to admit that he likes men not women. Maybe having sex with the wives of his friends, is his attempt to get close to the men.
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reader, anonymous, writes (21 August 2010): I can't tell if you're boasting to include us in your thrill, or wanting help.
I knew a man like this once. He too was thrilled to conquer a taken woman, and the higher the risk the more exhilerating it felt. He also was in therapy for many deep seeded issues: inability to love himself and others, deep hatred of his mother and women in general, and depression. Of course you suspect yourself doing something wrong, but just wondering why you don't feel remorse. When you get help, ask your therapist to rule out Narcissistic Personality Disorder.
Is it possible the real problem is not conquest over married people? Could you have a fear or pain that you need to admit and be rid of? If you didn't have money, good looks and all the things that are having "it all" who are you? When you are 65 years old with flabby skin, no muscles, zero hair, fake teeth, and hot married women would rather run you over with their car than have you in it, what will you be proud of then?
Imagine yourself without a sex drive, honest in all your dealings, and completely at peace with all people in your family and past. Now decide if that core person is what you want.
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reader, Miamine +, writes (21 August 2010):
"I am lucky: I have it all. I am tall, rich, good looking, athletic, well-educated. I, however, have a problem: I am attracted to married women. I am only really turned-on by being with a friend's (or co-worker's) wife." (Anon)
You have nothing you silly little man.... I feel sorry for you, because you can't even see how empty you are.
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reader, AuntyEm +, writes (21 August 2010):
 I would advise you to seek some professional advice from a psychotherapist. You have signs of narcisist disorder. The grandios opinion of yourself, the need to manipulate and control women in a danger zone, the lack of empathy for others feelings and the inability to identify decent normal behaviour from the abnormal. There is also the lack of acceptance of responsibility masked by an arrogant edge.
Your in a world of your own making that is at odds with the normal world around you and the fact it's driving your sexual desires shows that it is at the very core of your being...not a good place to be.
Other types of men who operate at this level often descend deeper and deeper into the perverse because eventually the thrill cannot be gained by the original action. You already display this by the way you discard women after the 'act' and then seek to retain total control over your 'conquest' for many months or years after without wishing to repeat the actual act itself. This really is a very worrying way to behave. To you it's normal, but to a normal well rounded functioning human being this is abnormal behaviour.
You are in a very dangerous place and you need to seek help before something bad happens...xxx
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reader, Jmtmj  +, writes (21 August 2010):
 Hah! Yeh dude, this isn't a site for jerks... try elsewhere.
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reader, anonymous, writes (21 August 2010): U are NOT LUCKY, and you surely DON'T HAVE IT ALL or you wouldn't be trying to destroy others happiness.
I think you have incredible self-esteem issues and to elevate yourself above others you NEED this secret knowledge. You, sir are a very sad person.
Not to judge - But have you ever had a real relationship with a woman? How did that happen to go? Did she dump you when you realized u r an arrogant a**?
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