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writes:When u still sleep with an ex does it mean that there are still feelings between the 2 of them, even tho u split a month and a half ago?Thats what me and my ex are doing, and a lot of people we know down the club we go to, say that you both wouldnt sleep together if there wasnt any feelings, and that there must be something still there, even though one says u cant look back in the past and get on with life and meet new people,But then u get people saying things like u wouldnt sleep with each other if there was no feelings, it seems real confusing as we do get on really well still and often flirt with each other.
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reader, DoubleM  +, writes (22 December 2008):
 It depends, to a large degree, on why the breakup occurred. If serious enough that no reconciliation or future is possible, then it is wise to work at ending a lingering sexual dependence. It is rather common and understandable, I think, that couples sometimes continue the sexual part of a relationship because it is typically safe, familiar, easy and serves a purpose (lust, at least). Personally, such has been my case a number of times the past 40 years or so.
After several such situations over many years, however, I've learned to insist that an unreconcilable relationship should rather promptly conclude rather than become a "lingering sexual relationship." In my case, if a woman doesn't tolerate the fact that I'll drink a few beers or glasses of wine nightly, then I'll move on, and it means no more of the sex as well.
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reader, eddie  +, writes (21 December 2008):
 People who are horny can sleep with complete strangers. People can cheat on their partners at the drop of a hat. This all happens without any feelings of love or desire for more. It is especially true for men. So, could there still be feelings? Sure there could. It could also be nothing more than sex.
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reader, sommerslover +, writes (21 December 2008):
 One question here is, do you have feelings for him, or do you have sex with him just for the sex ? There really is a difference. If you are just doing it for the sex, it's just like a "friends with benefits" arrangement. However, if you both still have feelings for each other, you two should talk about this and maybe get back together as a couple.
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reader, anonymous, writes (21 December 2008): this is goin to end up hurtin u in the long run. i did this with an ex as we both didnt want to b with any1 else but he didnt want to b with me anymore. now the problem is that eventually ur gonna fall more n more in love with him n wanna b with him n need him again n its goin to break ur heart when he cant b with u anymore as thats not wat he wants i think its easier left in the past n if its ment to b it will b let it fly n it will come back if its for the rite reasons as much as u still both love each other. cause eventually u both will not b able to move on cause ur both holdin each other back
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