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female
age
41-50,
anonymous
writes:I'm in a really awkward situation. I was very attracted to my professor and he was interested in me but I'm very shy and I guess I didn't respond to his flirting in the right way. He kind of ended it and that was in December. I have to be in 2 of his classes now and I still like him. I'm pretty sure he's dating another student-I don't know who it is. He's acting like a real jerk though. On top of being rejected, he refuses to acknowledge me in class or even address me by my name. It's like he doesn't want to give me the slightest possible thing for me to think he's interested.I need these courses but it's unbearable esp because I still am very attracted to him.Do I just act like it doesn't bother me and be miserable for a whole semester? Do I try to restore his interest? What should I do?Is he just too immature to bother with anyway?
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reader, anonymous, writes (25 September 2010): Please, have some dignity and don't entertain any thoughts about being with this unprofessional person. Yes, take the class. You can make a huge statement by taking the class but not engaging in inappropriate behavior with him. You will be fond of and attracted to many men before you're done and this will just be one to chalk up to, "That's life." You are just a number to him. He's a flirt and a womanizer. That thought should hit you every time you look at him. It's not about you but him. Be strong or life will deal you many blows!
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reader, wisernow +, writes (25 September 2010):
Hi. Males take rejection differently than females do. As a man l would probably do the same once l decided you were not interested.
So what to do? Talk to him. Find an opportunity to get him aside and say, "can we talk sometime soon?"
Believe me he will say "sure" or whatever. If he once was attracted by you then he still is, so take the inititive. l know you are shy but chances are he is also. Most of usare shy.
Once he agrees to talk the doors open to all subjects and you can go with the flow.
Good luck
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female
reader, aunt honesty  +, writes (25 September 2010):
 As your teacher he has a responsibilty to treat all his students as equals. He is totally mis treating you, dont go through the year miserable, you need to talk to this man and tell him how this is making you feel, and tell him if this dont change that you will be going to his boss to make a complaint of mis treating you.
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