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writes:Hi All, just a question. Have you ever found yourself to be dateless or relationshipless for more than 2 and a half years? I have and now i am questioning myself about my personality, looks and life style. Do you think this is odd to be on my own for this length of time? Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (7 March 2012): Thankyou guys for all your insight. Yes at the most im comfortable being single, but now and again i get a pang of being 43 and still on my own and noone has shown any interest but then again i dont put myself out there either. Thanks again x
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reader, anonymous, writes (6 March 2012): No not at all. I am a 47 year old male, who has only had 3 girlfiends in my life. The last girlfriend i had was in 1991. so thats 21 years single so far.
Most of it is my fault- I am reasonably attractive and look after myself, go to the gym, eat well etc, but don't 'put myself out there' so to speak. Staying single for me has been incredibly easy, and in that time no woman has expressed an interest in me either. I am happy with the situation, only very rarely wishing that there was someone else to share various experiences with.
Feel better now?
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reader, buttterflylovesladybird +, writes (5 March 2012):
 Dear lovely
Try to take up a hobby, or there are lots of free things to do in UK. Be creative and develop those things you have placed on a back burner.I was single for 4 years..my ex tried to re-enter my life, but just has i was giving up on men.. i met the most wonderful man, with whom i am going to marry.def dont try to re-kindle an old relationship, let them be..they are ex-partners for a reason! So use time to grow and learn about you..stay beautiful and true to yourself.
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reader, anonymous, writes (5 March 2012): Two and a half years isn't a long time at all, better to be dateless than meeting frogs and getting downhearted,the next one who shows up could be your prince and worth the wait!
I have friends who have met their partners in Supermarkets,car-parks and hardware stores...you just never know who's going to pop up.
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reader, eddie85  +, writes (5 March 2012):
 It happens.
Sometimes life has a way of taking its own course and it sounds like you've been busy living your life on your own. You don't state whether this makes you happy or not, but by your posting your question, I think you are starting to wonder if you want to share someone in your life.
I think it is always good to take stock periodically to see where you are going and what you want. Life is too short to go through it lonely.
If you find yourself wanting to find someone special, I suggest putting yourself out in social activities. Hit the gym, volunteer somewhere, get involved with your community, enlist your friends to help you find someone. One of the most common ways of meeting people is to use a dating site (believe me, the stigma of using them is gone these days). It's all up to you on how you want to proceed.
Good luck.
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reader, N91 +, writes (5 March 2012):
 Not really, I turn 21 this year and have never had a girlfriend. I just get on with it and enjoy myself.
If you're worried about it, try to find someone with similar interests, such as through groups or club which will probably help you find someone who is compatible.
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reader, MikeEa1  +, writes (4 March 2012):
 there ar lots of women in your age group that would love to meet you. you just have to figure out a way to meet them. that is the secret. a good way is to join some sort of social club and just start chatting to anybody about anything. gradually the women who like you will start chatting to you. you have to get out there and meet people.
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reader, katiekate +, writes (4 March 2012):
 I was single for a very long time (about 5 years) with only a few dates here and there that went nowhere. I was getting very frustrated and due to my busy schedule, began to venture into online dating. Have you tried it? I have had some success (my current boyfriend and I have been dating for 6 months and we met on plentyoffish). I like online dating because you are in control of who you talk to, and you can search for people that you think you might be compatible with. If not online dating, are you putting yourself out there? My mistake was that I stayed home too often and didn't put myself in very many situations in which I could possibly meet someone. I do adhere to the old saying that when you stop looking, that's when you will find someone. I say let fate take its course, but make sure you are doing your part. Do things that make you feel good about yourself physically (work out, make sure you look nice, etc), and do things that interest you. Take a class, travel, etc. Just do things that bring you happiness and that make you feel fulfilled. When you are truly happy with who you are and comfortable with being on your own, then you are bound to meet someone to enjoy your life with. Good luck!
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reader, anonymous, writes (4 March 2012): It depends on how social you are right? Are you meeting new people? The right person doesn't just come around, I know 2.5years seems like a long time when you look at the number but it is really? I don' t think so. I think its a good time to look at yourself and measure up how happy you are with what you want ideally in yourself and how your reality matches it. If you are content with that, then it's probably the area? Thought about travelling? :)
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