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writes:i meet my bf on a dating site 2 years ago. i moved into my boyfriend's apartment last year. since i moved in it seems like we are growing apart. we used to be flirtasious, intimate, romantic daily. it is like we are strangers now. we haven't been intimate since christmas. i recently had female surgery. it seems like he is making up excuses not to be intimate with me. the doctor has cleared me. he says he has trouble breathing during sex, but his actions confuse me. he makes sexual comments/jokes daily, masterbates daily says sexual things. if he has touble breathing during sex then how can he masterbate all the time. i have asked him about this a he avoids me. do you thinks he is cheating? he looks online a dating sites. i don't know what to do. if he wants me in his past, why dosen't he just tell me? i am not the jealous type. i just hate walking around like a stranger.
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reader, anonymous, writes (14 April 2010): you are too mature to have made a mistake again. see if things may work out. After all you need to adjust to him a bit.I am sure at your age and his age, you both should adjust to each other. you are not at the age of finding GF and BF every year.
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reader, Not My Name  +, writes (14 April 2010):
 It can be that sometimes when we live with someone we lose the spark and excitement of looking fwd to seeing them because they are always there. Familiarity can lead to taking each other for granted.
I am not buying the breathing problem as a reason to completely avoid sex tho. Unless it is a major major condition effecting general activity, surely he could manage to lie lat on his back, sit in a chair, etc, and let you be on top so he has less physical strain. Plenty of other ways too that you could be doing the physical activity whilst he takes it easy.
I would get to the bottom of his activities on dating sites tho, coz he is out of line doing that whilst in a relationship, any you may find that leads to all your answers about why his behaviour has changed and he is giving lame excuses to avoid sex.
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reader, anonymous, writes (14 April 2010): You never really know someone until you live in the same house. Have you talked to him? Even though you have been cleared by the doctor he could be scared of hurting you. If he has trouble breathing during sex then he needs to see a doctor, but that could also be the reason he doesn't want sex. He can masturbate ok, because it doesn't take the same physical effort as sex does. Like I say talk to him and tell him what you are thinking and feeling.
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reader, anonymous, writes (14 April 2010): you need to give him an ultimatum, tell him he either tells you whats wrong or else your moving out! simple as, if you dont speak up things are going to getting worse between u and him! sort things out sooner rather than later!! if he is looking up dating sites that would make me suspicious too! confront him about it!!
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reader, tell tez  +, writes (14 April 2010):
you need to give him an ultimatum, tell him he either tells you whats wrong or else your moving out! simple as, if you dont speak up things are going to getting worse between u and him! sort things out sooner rather than later!! if he is looking up dating sites that would make me suspicious too! confront him about it!!
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